romancing a work colleague

[simon g]

im totally in love with a woman who works in the same office as me. she is married but not happily and i know she has had a previous affair. i`ve already told her i love her and send her poetry and love notes but when i ask her to go out for a drink she keeps saying she will think about it. has anyone any tips on how i can get her to say yes.please help as i`m going crazy waiting for her.:confused:

[Saint Peter]

simon-
I have't had much experience with married women due to the fact i don't mess around like that. (Personal morale i guess). Anyway, if you really want to win her heart, i believe you just can't send her the normal stuff: flowers, candy, love poems etc. What im talking about is a unique and extremly romantic gesture or gift. Now i can't tell you what to get, that's your job, and only you really know this girl and her interests. So suprise her, shock her and do anything that will take her off her feet...right into your arms. Have faith...

Saint Peter :angel5:

[Pandora1980]

There are 2 very good reasons why you shouldn't pursue a relationship with her.
1- you work with her- that gets very uncomforable if it doesn't work out- believe me
2- she's married- I don't care how unhappily it is- if she's that unhappy, she will leave him- if you ignore reason one- wait until reason 2 is no longer true.

Say she did respond to your advances- people in your office would know that you're having an affair with a married women you work with- I personally would not want to be part of that office gossip.

If you really feel that you love her- don't be selfish- be her friend- help her deal with her unhappy marriage- even if that means that she and her husband recover from the "unhappiness" - if you say you love her- you want her to be happy- I'm sorry to say but that is probably without you.

You can find happiness with another woman- unmarried, and preferably working somewhere else.

You'll be just fine without her