What do I do about my boyfriend cheating?

[April]

What do I do about hearing about my boyfriend cheating? [COLOR=purple]

I have been with my boyfriend for three years now. We have had a long distance relationship as of a year now. I recently heard that he was cheating on me . I asked him about it and he told me that she was just his friend. Well, I started hearing more things so I wanted to get everything out in the blue and in the open. I called her on the phone and she called him on three-way! Whenever he heard my voice, he hung up the phone. He called me back disrespecting the girl and saying that she was lying. I'm upset because he could have said whatever he told me in front of her. I really love him, but I don't want to be a fool for him. This isn't the first time that I have heard about him doing things, but this is the first time that I tried to get everything straight with the girl also. Should I move on and try to forget about him, or should I try to forgive him for this and work out our problem?

[sandrababe]

The most painful experience in life is to find someone u love cheating on u... well, in ur case i believe something lack in ur r/ship is trust... a long distance r/ship needs that... what i believe is that do not hear what other ppl said until u've seen or caught ur bf and that girl... i know there will be a lot of theories of what had happened.... some might agree with me, some will have different ideas of what happened. my point is.... don't ever say anything or ask him anything until ur sure abt ur facts. by calling the girl is a real big no no.... but if u can get the truth out of her... then maybe it'll ease ur mind a little... but if not, that's what happened... then again, she shouldn't have told ur bf... maybe she can just sort things out with u... try to explain... etc... etc.. ahh well... then again.. life's a bitch...

p/s: get on with ur life.... well, it's easy for me to say... think with ur brains now... not with ur heart.... why must u be sad when the other party is not?

[Crash86sm]

Cut him off...... guysmake mistakes.... but unless he was drunk or something (which isn't an excuse but it lowers inhibitions) then he knew what he was doing and didn't care for you enough not to do it

[babymother]

they all could tell u that u should leave him but when it comes down to it its all up to you and what u want to do. Because after three years i know you must love him with all your heart and soul. and i say that to say by u loving him that much u don't want to here the only way things will or can get better for you is that you leave him.and u did the right thing by bringing the things you heard into the light. if you think its worth fighting for then fight.but if you feel that you feel more hurt then love you have to find the power to move on. because you love him so much it will be hard to but you have to love yourself so much more than you love him. and you have to love him enough to let him go only if thats what you want to do. because if in fact he is cheating and you decide to stay with never let any one tell you that your stupid or crazy.Because people can change and things do get better. cause i know the feeling. so keep your head up and your eyes dry because if its ment to be it will be. ;)

[jidk]

The first time is shame on me, The second time is shame on you.

If this guy is cheating and you are sure of it and he continues to cheat. The answer is simple. Good bye you cheat. I told you so.

The situation will only worsen. Once he finds that he can get by he will continue to cheat. He needs to learn the responsibility of what or how to value a good relationship.

I know a man who cheated on his wife for more that 40 years. She knew about it but did not do anything about it. She only complained to others...She to this day is a totally a miserable person to herself and to others as well. This guy need a boot in the ass out the door.

Think about it. Only you can make the decision. Just hope it the right one.

Jake

[LeBlueBoy]

Not all relationships are the same, and rarely do you ever hear a cheating story that's not one sided. If you think the guy is worth dealing with, then you need to ask him bluntly why he felt the need to cheat. If he's honest, you might not like the answer, but at least you know whether the relationship is worth salvaging or not.

If the guy tries to weasel out of it, and can't find it in him to give you an honest answer, then you need to get out of it.

If the guy cheats, and then bad mouthes the other woman, I have to wonder if he has any respect for either party.

I had a girlfriend who cheated on me, and she was pretty straightforward in explaining the situation to me--she told me that she had developed a friendship with a guy in her dorm, they met at a party, got drunk, did the deed, and she said that she realized that she had not had a chance to feel another guy kissing, fondling, or get it on with her for the past two years. She also did the noble thing, she told me she loved me, but that at this time in her life, she needed to take a break before she could truly commit, and she put our relationship on hold. I dealt with the breakup with grace and diplomacy, I gave her the space she requested, and didn't put a lot of pressure (well not too much) on her to jump back into putting things together again.

And then I did something incredibly stupid! Within three monthes I married another woman I had known for about 8 weeks. (Which ended two years later when she tried to reconnect with an ex-boyfriend who she had carried the torch for over 4 years after they first broke up).