any break up advice please

[shelbyw]

I've been daiting this guy for a long time, I love him from the bottom of my heart and he says he does too. This friday though I got fired and he stayed out all night with the boy then when I let it go saterday he got drunk with his bestfriend and went to a party, the next morning he was still really drunk and he broke up with me for no reason, he just wanted to end it. Later when he was bring me some of my stuff, I told him you should at least give me a reason why you are doing this and he said he wanted to see other people, I asked him if he had met someone at the party saterday and he said no all the girls at the party were old friends and other crap like that. Then he called me later that day (all this happened in a day) and said that breaking up with me was the biggest mistake of his life and he wished he could take it back but he understood that he couldn't and a bunch of other crap that basically was along those lines. so I made the mistake of wanting to talk about it, we talked about it and he wants to be with me because "I'm everything he could want out of a woman" but he still wants to see other women. He basically wants his cake and to eat it to. I wish I could let this go and walk away from it, but every time he calls I run to the phone and try to work things out, but they never workout they just get worse. And I want to be with him it just fells like this felling will never go away.I still want to be with him and he still wants to be with me but all of the sudden he wants to date other women.One more thing, he's told me about his other relationships, it sound like I'm the first girl he has dated who hasn't ed him over royal, and the other girls who did, he gave them a million chance, he couldn't get enough of them.So why would he give another chance to me, someone who hasn't hurt him.Any breaking up advice would be appriciated.

[angel143ml]

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shelbyw,

I don't know why people always run after people that treat them like crap, but we do. Both guys and girls do it, I have been on both sides. What I mean is, I've run after guys who treated me like crap, and have watched these same guys run after other girls who treated them like crap. However, I made a pack with myself not to run after guys that treat me like crap anymore. So, I'm gonna run after one who will treat me right if I can get the nerve up to talk to him.
I know it's not much of a consolation, cause it does hurt alot to let go of someone you've been with along time, but eventually the hurt will go away, and then you'll meet someone who'll treat you right!;) Give yourself a little time to heal, and when he calls, if you can't handle him calling, tell him to stop calling. If that doesn't work, next time he calls, hang up and refuse to talk to him.
GOOD LUCK!

Remember, LOVE yourself first, then love someone else.

Angel143ml

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[all4amy]

Remember, LOVE yourself first, then love someone else.

Well, she beat me to the post, but I couldn't agree anymore. You have to be happy with yourself before you can make that other person happy. Care about your feelings before his, no matter how giving or caring you are, it'll only end in saddness if you don't. All I can say is, dump the boy and get yourself a real man who will put you as their #1 priority and treat you like a queen. Yes, it is human nature to want what we can't have and to go towards what treats us bad, but in this situation, I say just drop him and move on. Don't worry about his feelings because it doesn't seem like he worried about yours, no matter how drunk or un drunk someone might be. If he REALLY cared for you, then he would have loved you in any way and made the sacrifice to not want to see other woman. It looks to me that he had been thinking about this for a while and the alcohol is what convinced him to finally tell you. Drunk at a party with all these different type of women without your GF, yea... "They're all just friends..." Yea right!

I guess I'm just trying to write this to help you gain some strenght to go against him and not fall for him each time, just to get hurt again. But whatever you do, always make choices to make yourself happy first...

[precentor]

I agree with angel143ml and all4amy.

Dump him, he doesn’t deserve you.
Go find someone who will really cares for you. Who will put you on the top of there caring list.

[jurupa]

I have seen this same thing to my friend and they have been on and off like crazy. My adivce will be this: If you think something is still there then stay with him, but not then you dumb him.

Remmber we are human do make mistakes, small and big. But it is your choice. And yes I told my friend the same thing and so far they are back together right now.