HELP! As many diff advice as possible pleaxe

[ninja2dope]

:confused: Well...I have posted on this board once b4 and heres what has happened since. (by the way I did get some good advice) I'm seein this girl (I'm 22) who is 28 years old and has a 4 year old daughter. We have already crossed the line of friends b4. However, lately she told me that she is scared of a relationship with me because she knows it will be a commitment and its alot to deal with. Instead she sees this guy who is s drunk and can't read or nuthin. She sees him once a week and says it's a "easy" relationship. She knows I really care about her and I treat her GREAT. The problem is we made plans to hang out today and to goto her relatives B-Day party......no call, no show... Her intrest seems to be fading to me.Lately I have sat back and been "the friend" but it dosen't help, I tried "the ignore" and that made it worse. Is there hope for this thing???? When we are together, everything is great. When were not, it's terrible. Or am I overreacting? HELP! lol

[all4amy]

Wow, I'm kinda in the same situation as you are, but all I have to say is let her write the story. You can't do anything to make her choose, she has to choose what she wants and if that takes you being gone and making her realize what she lost, so be it, but all you're doing is putting yourself through some tough times, thinking, wondering what you did wrong or what you can do. All I can suggest is not to ignore her, but be there for her. Not be there for her every single move, but decide when it's needed, but don't come off as an asshole, you don't want to leave the friendship on bad terms. I guess all I'm saying is, she doesn't really do too good for you, so don't hold on for too long, but if one day she does come around, so be it... Try again then... For now, keep your mind busy with other stuff:D