is this girl hitting on me...?

[CAL]

Is this girl hitting on me or what? (post #1)

Well,
This girl that i know in grad school has a boyfreind (rarely ever mentions him...they have "problems" is what she told me)
...

has now told me on at least three different occasions that "you know you have a great body"., "you have an amazing body" blah blah.

then she asks me if ...I'm going to bars on friday and if ill buy her a drink.

normally i would assume yes, but she does have a bf...though he is 1,000 miles away and will be for at least a few years.

what your .02?

[Gan]

Well of course she likes you, it just depends whether or not you want to step into her boyfriend's territory. Honestly, I want to know why half these unhappy girls keep "going out" with their boyfriends even though they don't like them. Where the hell is the logic in that? I suppose I'm a male, so I'll never understand the female mind :)

-Gan

[chrissy81]

i would have to say that yes this girl likes you but i would be careful as to what she wants. she might be one of those girls who may want to get with you (even if she does have a boyfriend and he is 1,000 miles away). she may want to get with you just cuz she knows her boyfriend isnt around and hey he wont find out(in her mind that is). be careful cuz if you happen to get together once or twice, after she may turn around and say oh i have a boyfriend i cant be with you. I know girls who are like this so be careful, she may just be using you for the moment!

[Truth Syrup]

Yeah she's being very OBVIOUS with her flirtation which means she must be testing the waters with you throwing in the bait and wondering if you will bite. Seems to me like you may just do that. Gan, in response to your comment I think girls just like guys stick at these "hopeless" relationships because they are worried that they are going to end up alone and keep hoping the situation will change. These type of people also like to keep their options open by flirting with single people and so they know if they break up with their bf/gf they will have a "back up" plan. Thats what i believe based on what i've observed. Anyway she should break up with her bf if she wants you enough, something tells me she wants both - her cake and eat it too - much easier to do when the bf is 1000 miles away. Its up to you if you want to pursue this. :wall:

[mdl4483]

rightly said Truth Syrup, I agree totally.