what should i do......???

[rachel56571]

HEY EVERYONE!
I really need some advice here is the problem: Im dating around and im going on dates with three guys. The first one is kevin he lives hours from me but is nice and wants a relationship w/me now. I have known him for a month. My sister set us up. The second is nick and we have been talking over the phone for two months and i finally me thim last week. He's a total sweet heart, he lives three hours away too but he might move closer if i wnat a relationship w/him. Then I coulsd see him more. The third is allen ive been seeing him for two months and he's going into the coast guard in october and is leaving for 2 years:eek: . He says he just wants to have fun (whatever that means guys please tell me). But anyways help me out here i am so confused its crazy!!! I would really appreciate it!!!!:)
Rachel

[Aki Ross]

I think either Kevin or Nick is a better choice.

You said kevin is nice and wants a relationship with you now. Since you have known him for a month, how do you find him? (Though one month is not a very long time) Ask your sister why she set you guys up.

As for nick, though you have been talking over the phone for two months, you only met him last week. Take more time to know this guy. It's nice that he said he is willing to move closer if you want a relationship with him.

I am not sure about Allen. It is difficult to maintain a long distance relationship. I think it will be even more difficult in this case as you guys will likely to be without contact for frequent periods if he is required to go traveling/patroling. It's also not a good sign that he says he just wants to have fun. Does he bring along this "just want to have fun" mentality into a relationship?

So, of all the three, i will rank them as

1) Kevin
2) Nick
3) Allen

Remember to ask your sister for her opinion, esp regarding Kevin. See what she has to say. Lastly and most importantly, what does your heart tells you?

[rachel56571]

thanks for your reply Aki Ross~
Your right about allen it wont work out.
Kevin and I met through my sister. It went like this he was hitting on her and she is married so she gave him my number instead. she never really knew him jsut met him from the bar!!!
Nick and I totally hit it off from the start, we get along great and he is so sweet to me. He calls me all the time and is still seroius about moving for me!!!!!:D
Personally i think kevin just wants a sexual relationship. He was over last night and he was all over me all night long!!!:eek2: I couldnt believe it!!!
So now that its narrowed sown to two, how do i tell the other one that im not interested in him that way?
Please reply back!!!
Rachel

[katty]

Hello rachel56571,

Kevin's all over you? Did you guys have sex?

From what i read, i think Nick's more suitable for you and is the best among them.

Tell Kevin that you are not interested in him. Just be straight-forward and let him know. I think it is best to end it fast rather than drag it.

[rachel56571]

Thanks katty!!!
Actually we did. so now what????
I really like nick and i told him whats going on and he just keeps telling me to follow my heart. He wasnt even mad at me for telling him about all these guys.
SO your saying that i should just tell kevin straight up that it wont work? Should i even be friends with him or just never speak again??
Thanks again katty!!
Rachel

[katty]

Hello rachel56571,

If i were you, i won't be seeing or talking or be friends with Kevin.
Because, i won't want my bf to get jealous and angry when he knows that i am keeping in touch with my ex-bfs. Also, i won't want my bf to meet his ex-gfs too. I don't like the thought of it that i am at home and my bf is out meeting his ex-gfs. But if you don't mind that, i think it is fine.

Yes, tell Kevin that it won't work at all, because you don't love him and don't wish to start a relationship with him. Tell him that he is not the one whom you will miss when having your lunch, on the bus, etc.

All the best of love luck and keep me informed. :heart:

[rachel56571]

Thanks Katty!!!
I told kevin tonight and he is okay with it all he realized that it wont work out cause he lives three hours away. We are jsut gonna be friends so thats good:)
Thanks to all of you so much for helping me out w/this!!
Rachel

[m4tr1x]

pls ignore this guys, this is just a testing :)