Tired of Love?

[cpbs3]

I guess its has been a long while since I have written on this board and I just wanted to state to everyone that I am a total losser. Two relationships in the past year and both of the had died. That last one is my own words "was the best and the worst". The best: All the best times and the best LOVE I have ever in my life ever given to anyone. The worst: To find out that you screwed everything up in the realtionship. That not only do you feel that you screwed up but you keep on having the feelings you did whem you were dating and there is no one to share them with anyone.


In my oppion....I am tired of love. I mean I still love my friends and all but it hurt so much over this girl....I don't know anymore. When you turn around and the hardest time of my life there is no one to run to. I guess I am a looser,:p. But I guess good things did come out of this. "NEVER GIVE YOUR HEART AWAY"! And if you do, never take it back. Like me I gave my heart to that girl and now I NEVER want her to give it back. I would rather die a lonly man then to take it back. It kind of sounds weird but in my oppion again, she was the one. And why should I want my heart back and all the love I gave her back? I don't, she can have it and she can hurt like I hurt every passing day. I don't care about love anymore. I just need friends now I guess. I got a big life a head of me and if she never wants to be with me then I will just live alone.....forever.

This life on this earth is short and if it take three years to 500 years to make her realize I do still love her always and forever, then it will.

I guess I will stop hurting this board and what its purpose is :), talk to everyone later.

Christopher

P.S.-Oh the joys of life! :p

[Duh Blonde]

give up on love forever because of some bad relationships. I know that it's hard. Trust me I do. I've been hurt before too. You have to look out for number 1, that being yourself. Go slow in relationships and if you have the least bit of doubt, dont COMPLETELY give your heart away. Learn from mistakes in the past, but don't let it mess up the future. I truly believe that there is someone for everyone. Just take your time finding it and don't rush things. You couldn't have screwed up the entire relationship by yourself. It takes TWO. So don't blame yourself for everything no matter what happened in the relationship. You will still feel the love for this girl for a while. Who knows, it may never go away and it may be one that you may never forget, however, you will find love again with time. When you really love someone I don't think it ever stops. I still love my first love but we both have changed and well, back then as I look back now we were very different. But with time we were able to become friends again and I'm thankful for that much.

Yes you gave your heart away, and even though you don't want it back..thats OK to feel that way too. You loved her. Wanting your heart back would mean that you didn't actually love her the way you thought you did. Though you may have many regrets, falling in love with her wasn't one of them I don't think. It seems to me that the thing you regret is mistakes that were made in the relationship. Learn from these things and even though it will be hard, if you can find ways to occupy yourself and don't sit at home all the time alone, things will get better.

I hope you don't get upset with me for what I have said. I don't mean to seem harsh or anything I only want to try and help because I have been there.

If it is meant to be, it may be a year from now or maybe 5, but it will be again. But that's something you can't just sit and wait for and put your life on hold for.

I hope things get better for you and that everything turns out the way you want it to. Just remember, its OK to still love someone you are no longer with, but life has to go on and you will see that things will get better with time. No the feelings may not go away, but you will be able to deal with things better.

[cpbs3]

thanks!:p....just tired is all......time will tell eh?

[Gan]

Originally posted by Duh Blonde
You have to look out for number 1, that being yourself. Go slow in relationships and if you have the least bit of doubt, dont COMPLETELY give your heart away.

That is solid gold right there. Excellent comment. I will use that concept from this second onwards.

-Gan

[Datboyd]

Ya know, a heart is a funny thing. If you give too much of it away too fast, it drives people off (you're needy). If you don't give enough of it away, it drives people away (you're emotionally unavailable/distant). You now have the difficult task of determining how much to give away to keep a healthy relationship, yet keep yourself from getting hurt. One of life's many dilemmas. Look out for #1...bottom line.

[MyMatt2003]

If you give too much of it away too fast, it drives people off (you're needy).

Can you please explain this to me, because I don't understand it too well...

[all4amy]

Well, I know you didn't ask me the question directly, but I'll put my input on that comment. In my opinion, relationships only keep their "need" or excitement when there's a balance. Each person still "needs" the other person for some reason or another, but if you give everything to that other person, if you give them all your love and your whole heart, you give them everything that they need and there won't be any need for anything else from you. OK, that seemed really confusing, but all in all, it's human nature to want something that they can't have, so if they have everything from you, they eventually won't want you anymore. So, if you give your everything to someone, they'll see it as what else can you give them. I learned this the hard way, for as I was on the other side where my ex gave me her whole heart and I took it forgranted. I didn't want her anymore, but then as she left, I wanted more of her than I have ever wanted. It sucks and just makes relationships all more connfusing. I know that all my opinions may not be as accurate, but please correct me if I'm wrong...:D

[MyMatt2003]

Thank alot for your answer. You answered my question on the and I really appreciate that.. I guess, I can relate to that.. sucks when you don't know what you have until its gone.

[all4amy]

Yes it absolutely does, but don't be downed or sadden by it. Learn from your experiences so that those mistakes won't happen again. I used to be all depressed and sad about what I did, but I changed my life around and told my ex, if one day she decides to come back to me, I promised her that I'd be a greater man than she had ever been with before because of the things I had learned and the mistakes that I won't make again. We go with alot of different people to learn from each one. We learn from the mistakes that we make with each one because in the end, you can be the best you can be with that final person.
(OK, my English seemed really messed up there, :D sorry, I guess it's just too early in the morning... :p )

[Duh Blonde]

Originally posted by all4amy
Yes it absolutely does, but don't be downed or sadden by it. Learn from your experiences so that those mistakes won't happen again.

Exactly. I was going to reply to this post with a long answer, but the two post you have posted for him are exactly my thoughts. I completely agree with the things you said in these posts. :)