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Arie
10-12-2002, 09:34 AM
I'm currently in a long distance relationship with someone I care about very much. Let's call my significant other "J". We get along extremely well and we make each other really happy, so that isn't the issue at all. This is J's first relationship and we're still learning about each other, but J tends to have a big problem with communication. As much as I try to be very open with everything in my life, she doesn't have the security to be the same way with me.

Because of this we have silly arguments, and J's inability to tell me what she's going through and feeling is really beginning to bother me. The other night I confronted her about it and the return e-mail I got just said "eh, I'm so f------ sick of this." We've made up since then and we're okay now, but I don't know what to do. Should I just let things be and wait and hope that she opens up to me eventually? Or should I continue to ask her to tell me what's going on? :confused:

I've fallen in love with her but I am afraid to say anything because I don't know how she will react, so for now I'm keeping it to myself...should I tell her now? I don't know that she feels exactly the same way, but she does tell me all the time that she feels I'm perfect for her.

Everything would be so much easier if we weren't 3 hours apart. Hopefully in August I will be down with her and we can finally "be" together but in the meantime I'm feeling so frustrated.

Why does love have to be so complicated? Grrrrr!

:(

Stephanie
10-13-2002, 08:43 PM
Things were made complicated to test you. How long have you two been together because trust takes a while to earn. Even longer if the person has been hurt before. Maybe you could ask her more specific questions to get the answers you want

Arie
10-13-2002, 08:49 PM
We have been together 2 months, which I realize is not long at all, but we have been friends for about 2 1/2 years.

It's just sort of strange how things change.

:rolleyes:

We're okay for the moment, I think the distance just adds a whole new level of frustration. Thanks for the reply. :)

jamesravin57
10-14-2002, 05:42 PM
She is either in avunerable point in her life ( maybe just had a big breakup) or she jut has issues with trusting men--that's my hunch