Boemi
10-02-2002, 07:16 PM
I am a public school teacher who has fallen in love with my principal. He is single, I am married, though separated. He is 52, I am 38 and am fit and attractive, as he is.
We've worked together for two years and I always hated him because he made my life hell. He exclusively goes after tall, thin blondes with blue eyes, he isn't interested sexually in any other type. (I'm his type). I regally ignored him until July, and suddenly I started finding myself terribly attracted to him. The sexual tension would be so bad when I would be around him, my body would literally ache. My entire day would be fabulous if we met and flirted, but if he wasn't around, I would be in the dumps
We started flirting mutually: staring at each other, making deep eye contact, wide smiles, then we escalated to touching arms, backs and then even mutual hand holding in his office. There is no way I misinterpreted his signals, they were loud and clear. He has had affairs with other teachers in the past and has a reputation as something of a player and ladies man. He has also had one sexual harassment lawsuit filed against him 5 years ago by some other teacher.
After two months of this escalating flirting, I decided I *had* to make a move. I bought a new car and asked him if he wanted to see it. He said, "Yeah!" Then I asked if he would like to take a drive with me. He said "Yeah!" enthusiatically again. We set up a date to go during my lunch period from school. But when the time came, he blew me off and never showed up. He walked by me, got into his car and drove off alone, without me. I was completely shattered.
Later, he came to my room and apologized and said (lamely), "Something came up... I wasn't blowing you off... We can do it some other time..." This was last Thursday. Ever since then he has avoided me, not sought me out, not flirted and been very clipped in conversation with me.
I am devastated. I did nothing wrong that I can see. Everything was going along perfectly until the car ride fiasco, where he stood me up. I know I should stop thinking about him and never go after him again, but I am still desperately attracted to him, even if he is a jerk.
Was he just playing with me all those previous months? Was he flirting without intent, even though he gave *every* indication he was seriously attracted to me? Was he afraid of me, or turned off somehow that a woman made the first move?
I feel like asking him why he did this, but everyone I know says to avoid him, ignore him and don't let him know that his actions have made me seriously depressed. But the fact remains I still want him, I still want to pursue him and I still want to go to bed with him.
Advice, anyone?
We've worked together for two years and I always hated him because he made my life hell. He exclusively goes after tall, thin blondes with blue eyes, he isn't interested sexually in any other type. (I'm his type). I regally ignored him until July, and suddenly I started finding myself terribly attracted to him. The sexual tension would be so bad when I would be around him, my body would literally ache. My entire day would be fabulous if we met and flirted, but if he wasn't around, I would be in the dumps
We started flirting mutually: staring at each other, making deep eye contact, wide smiles, then we escalated to touching arms, backs and then even mutual hand holding in his office. There is no way I misinterpreted his signals, they were loud and clear. He has had affairs with other teachers in the past and has a reputation as something of a player and ladies man. He has also had one sexual harassment lawsuit filed against him 5 years ago by some other teacher.
After two months of this escalating flirting, I decided I *had* to make a move. I bought a new car and asked him if he wanted to see it. He said, "Yeah!" Then I asked if he would like to take a drive with me. He said "Yeah!" enthusiatically again. We set up a date to go during my lunch period from school. But when the time came, he blew me off and never showed up. He walked by me, got into his car and drove off alone, without me. I was completely shattered.
Later, he came to my room and apologized and said (lamely), "Something came up... I wasn't blowing you off... We can do it some other time..." This was last Thursday. Ever since then he has avoided me, not sought me out, not flirted and been very clipped in conversation with me.
I am devastated. I did nothing wrong that I can see. Everything was going along perfectly until the car ride fiasco, where he stood me up. I know I should stop thinking about him and never go after him again, but I am still desperately attracted to him, even if he is a jerk.
Was he just playing with me all those previous months? Was he flirting without intent, even though he gave *every* indication he was seriously attracted to me? Was he afraid of me, or turned off somehow that a woman made the first move?
I feel like asking him why he did this, but everyone I know says to avoid him, ignore him and don't let him know that his actions have made me seriously depressed. But the fact remains I still want him, I still want to pursue him and I still want to go to bed with him.
Advice, anyone?