I, the yo-yo.

[Ms Dynamite]

I don't know what to do anymore, so I am entrusting everything to you guys. I trust your advice will eventually lead me to some kind of resolution.
I am so frustrated. There's this guy. I like him. A lot. I've known him for years and he's been a good friend. Recently, we've been spending quite a lot more time together and I find that we have become increasingly flirtatious with one another. My problem is that he flirts with me incessantly, and just when I decide that I want things to develop, he pulls away. He gets all..friend-like again. So now I feel like a yo-yo. I've dropped enough hints to let him know how I feel about him, but it just feels like one of two things:
1- He enjoys seeing me this way
2- He's afraid of something

I don't know what to do. Help is needed.

:( :cold: :confused:

[Gan]

Like I always say Dynamite, if he's a good friend then I say you should talk about it. The worst thing that can happen is he'll say no. If he really is a good friend this won't scare him off. Things may be awkward for a while, but that'll cool down. Knowing that you feel about him this way may make him realise his feelings for you too. I believe flirting and giving physical signs in friendship situations is just not enough to get your point across. Most of the time they think you're just mucking around.

Sometimes these "more than friends" proposals work out and sometimes they don't. Having a friendship to start with is a great basis for a relationship (and in my opinion make the best relationships), but I think it just depends on how long you've been friends and how friendly you are towards eachother. The longer you're just friends, the harder it is to come out and say you like them, and the harder for them it is to realise you're serious and aren't just being overly friendly.

Now I'm just guessing here, but is the reason why you became friends in the first place with this guy was because you liked him at the start but didn't have the strength to tell him then, so you befriended him and kept him on the sideline until you got the courage to show him how you felt? Just curious, because that's what a lot of us get ourselves into :)

-Gan

[angel143ml]

:angel6:

I agree 100% with Gan, listen to his advice, it's very smart.

:p

Angel143ml

:angel6:

[Ms Dynamite]

When we first met, we really were just friends. But I suppose somewhere along the course of things, I liked him more than a friend before the flirtations began. I guess you're right. I will talk to him and let you know how it goes. Thanks for the help guys:)