What do you find attractive?

[Neo]

To guys, what in a gal makes you like her?

To gals, what in a guy makes you like him?

[GeminiTau]

I like a guy that is confident and secure in himself. Some one who is active and positive. Who is intelligent and motivated. Has a sense of humor and likes to have fun. Who has respect for himself and others surrounding him. OH he also has to have a great smile :) These are the qualities that attract me to a man...of course I have to be physically attracted to him, but if he is an egotistical, self centered, disrespectful jack ass, then what good do looks do?

[katty]

- Someone has respect for himself and others.

- Someone who is willing to say "please", "thank you" and "sorry".

- Positive, a sense of humor and likes to have fun.

[CrystalTears52]

I love a guy who is really outgoing. It is always best if he makes the first move for me. But he has to be polite. I have to get to know them before we go out doing anything. I also love a guy who expects you to share the pay on meals and stuff. I hate when they pay, it makes me feel bad. I always chip in on my part . At the movies, He'll by the tickets, by I pay for the snacks, vise versa. :p . I basicly like guys who are themselfs. That whole fun in meeting new people is that they are all different.

:heart: Emily

[brownsuga]

:devil: what i find attractive in guys is their ability to listen and comprehend at the same time. A guy must be sensitive to the feelings of those around him. You know how in movies they have the really romantic guy who does those little but sweet things, well i wish guys would just learn from them.

[babyayi]

:good:what i like in a guy is that is tall, smart, funny,and
that he loves to spend to wit his girl. that his romantic and
many other things that can't be said.:devil: :eek2: :heart:

[xiaomoon]

:flake: Basically, my ideal guy would be one who is humourous,someone who really cares abt mi n able to fill my life wif happniess. Of cos he must understand mi n able to give mi the secure feeling too! :angel2:

[Andrea]

The ideal guy is something I've often thought about. The first thing that I look for is obviously physical attraction. Intelligence is important too. What good is a mate that you can't carry on a decent conversation with? He also has to know what he wants out of life and be willing to go for it. No one wants a deadbeat. He should have an aura about him that attracts other people in general. Self-confidence is a must. For someone to truly love me they must first love themself. I would also prefer that he be an active person. Someone that is spontaneous and up for anything. And of course, he must be a good kisser. If he doesn't give me butterflies in my stomach there's no use pursuing him.:heart:

[maverick]

hi there andrea!!! you new here? we'll me want to welcome you to this wonderful chatroom where you can say anything... i have read you threads and your a serious type of person... am i right? want to be friends with me?
until then ciao!:)

[sephiroth32198]

the question being what do i find attractive...

well first call me shallow but you have to be physically attractive they say personality counts for alot but if you are horribly ugly even with a great personality you wont get many dates. the need to be pretty intelligent not to float my own boat but i am intelligent and like someone like that to. they need to be about my sizle plus of minus a little but i dont like a huge size mismatch and they need to be well kept looking bad just dosent cut it and last of all i cannot stand shot hair women just dont look good with short hair

[SubSkunkLB]

Im 17, and in my opinion Ive only had one REAL relationship. But, through that Ive learned many to dos and not to dos. Obviously not enough since I havent found another good girl though. but anyways, what I find attractive.
I'll start with whats not attractive. Remember this is opinion, not fact. No drugs, drugs are just, a huge turn off for me. No smoking, no thinking youre "all that". Um, things that are attractive, for me. I like girls who arent afraid to be themselves around me, around their friends, and around both of us at the same time. Most girls act completely differently when around friends than when around just me. Smiles, many smiles, smiles are good. Little kisses, hugs. Go up to a guy and squeeze his hand. DO NOT HOLD IT. Just squeeze and say hi, but dont just say hi, say "hey (insert their name here), whats up"

Theres my first 2 cents of this webpage

[Kaisharga]

To me, exceeding the norms is attractive. My gf is about the only person i know who has a larger vocabulary than myself, and can 0wn me at any sort of mechanical or electronic anything--a field of interest for me. Bear in mind, i still wear the pants around computer software and human languages...but the fact that she equals and/or surpasses me in several things on which i pride myself somehow attracts me to her. Go fig.

Not to mention the relative open-mindedness, as opposed to the dimwitted petty moronic females that populated my middle school...my gf actually thinks, deeply, and often. Also a big attraction.

-Kaisharga

[LeBlueBoy]

I was involved with a beautiful blond woman (5'5", size 4, almond shaped eyes and a very pretty face) and I knew the relationship had taken its toll when I found myself hitting on the receptionist at my workplace (she had beautiful polynesian features, and weighed close to 200 pounds--and was happily married--so I kept the flirting at a harmless level). The key thing that made her attractive is her smile--this conveys all sorts of messages: she's easygoing, she's optimistic, she's happy, she appreciates all life has given her...etc. In the meantime, I was still sorting out my feelings for someone who was nervous, continuously depressed, and manipulative.

I always thought the "smiling" thing was highly overrated until this happened. Now I realize that a scowling waif will attract far fewer men than a chubby girl who looks like she's enjoying herself.

[Byron]

What LeBlueboy said is very true.

I always feel that a lady who smiles more often is much more attractive even when compared to another who is more beautiful. A sweet smile can any time capture my attention compared to a pretty face. Looking back, I have always been more attracted to ladies who smile more.

Like what LeBlueboy said, smiling shows that she is easygoing, she's optimistic, she's happy, she appreciates all life has given her...etc.

Smiling shows that you like and are attracted to the other party. Don't underrate the importance of smiling.

[babymother]

He Has to respect me and has to have selfrespect
He Has to be very funny because i am kind of off at times. and he must be very clean because if he can't keep his cloths or shoes clean thats shows me that he's still a little immature cause only babys go outside and come back dirty. and he has to be able to talk about anything in the world from current events to thongs.and he has to have sexy lips and voice that makes me want to holla and he has to love to party and he has to love music in so many words i just described my baby .:heart: :love:

[Angeleyes]

The main thing for me is that my guy would have to have a good sense of humour. The physical attraction bit does play a part, I’m not going to deny that - but it’s not the most important thing.

He’d have to be loving/caring, good conversationalist, intelligent, have good manners, respect me etc. Oh definitely a non-smoker.

In return he would get someone with a great SOH (bit warped sometimes! :wacko: ), lots and lots of love and attention, good cook, etc.:) However, I do have a teeny weenie bit of a temper sometimes if pushed:splat: - but he might find that quite an endearing quality ;):D

[bleachedwings]

I like quiet, introverted guys. The loner type who are kind of off doing their own thing. And its attractive when a guy has a hobby he's really into.

[Shattsy]

Okay my guy would have to be very Open, Honest, Good listener and sensitive to mine and others feelings, Non - smoker and dosent take drugs they would have to be the most important to me in a guy.
Athletic looks, easy going, sexy smile, Loves spending time with me and has a high respect for girls and also Someone that is willing to hug / kiss me whenever he had the desire too, so not affraid to show his emotions, in private or in public.:lips:

[ladeda]

I like guys who...
have a good sense of humor, are optimistic, patient, don't smoke, smile, decisive/not too shy/not a doormat, and athletic.

[LemonSprinkles]

What do I find attractive in a Guy:

1. Well he DEFINITELY has to have a sense of humor. He just HAS to make me laugh/smile or the deal is off! I :love: guys w/ a sence of humor 'cause they make you happy and you enjoy being around them SO much.

2. I think a man that is independant is really sexy :kiss: Like if he knows what he is doin' when he's working...it just makes a girl so...*sigh* heehee ;)

3. He has to be SWEET...like he wants whats best for YOU and not what's best for him.

4. He cannot be mean or anything ... like he doesn't cut down anyone or joke on anyone. Just really...nice :angel:

5. He shouldn't be too shy. I mean... it's okay for a guy to be shy and all, but don't make it so that the girl has to supply all of the conversation!

*BONUS* 6. Well... looks aren't very important to me...but it wouldn't hurt. It's mainly the first 5 steps. Looks are just a BONUS.

If I ever find a guy with all 5 of those traits, I swear I would faint!!! :love: *sigh* if only... :lman:

[Joshua]

if everybody is looking for his or her perfect guy or ger...i think everybody is gonna wait for ages for that person to come along..:P nobody is perfect i guess...;)