Question for the guys...

[smilesintx]

Okay...say that you met a girl like 3 months ago and you've only seen her like 2 times and talked to her on the computer just a few times since. Without telling her, how would you show her that you are attracted to her?...What would you say and how would you act around her? I can't tell if this guy is just being nice, or if he's attracted to me!...and I'm too shy to ask him! Thanks for any advice you have!

[pacifikix]

I guess it would depend on how often you e-mail back and forth. Are you usually the one that initiates contact? Or does he? When you've met has it been like a date or just a casual meeting. If it were me and I really liked this girl I would e-mail her and try and get together sometime. I would also try and be as flirty as possible when I emailed her. If that's what you're getting then it is a good sign. If his emails are usually very short and to the point its probably a no go. One thing is for sure, if you're interested in someone it's no good to wait around for them to approach you. If you want something you have to go after it! I am pretty shy myself, so I understand where you're at, but if you are getting even a few good signals its worth a try. Good Luck!

[jidk]

Ok, nothing ventured nothing gained.

You have to somehow let this guy know your interest in him. What do you have to loose.

If you don't have him, you certainly can't loose him by trying to get his attention. You all to gain.

Flirt with him, be a little forward. Exchange some email. Write a love/friendship poem or find one on the enter-net. There is much passion in poetry. There is a site called "Loving Touch Romance Greetings" that you send free automated email poems through
There literally hundreds of sites on poetry ranging from A-Z.

Just be a little creative, you have by far a much greater abiltiy than you think you have. Stretch your ability, you will be amazed how it can grow. Don't give into insecruity. Quilter never win, and winners never quilt.

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[mmj]

Originally posted by smilesintx
Without telling her, how would you show her that you are attracted to her?...What would you say and how would you act around her? I can't tell if this guy is just being nice, or if he's attracted to me!...and I'm too shy to ask him! Thanks for any advice you have!

Don't ever rely on a guy to give invisible signals to you.
Girls always seem to be waiting for a 'sign' from a guy. If he doesn't have the courage to say what he means then you should realize that's his problem. Why don't you get things moving by asking him how he feels about you?

[jidk]

Ok you say he has not given out signs;

There was a time in my past when, at a much younger age, I could not see a flirting sign if it came up and slapped me in the face. May still have that problem, but now I am much wiser and know people in a different light.

I would bet you a good kiss that this is the case with this fellow.

This is more obvious to me now since my last high school class re-union. I had a number ladies at the re-union to tell me about a crush they had on me. Boy!! If I had only knew then what I know now.

Ok now step up to the plate, take on the teaching mode.

This guy obviously has a lot of learning to do. You may grow a few gray hair if you wait for him to make the first move.

Oh yes! no point in playing games. Don't play hard to get. Give this guy a chance to prove himself. You never know this may just build his ego to know that there someone really interested in him

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[Champ1]

Well i am a guy, and the way that i would show a girl that i was interested in them is try to talk to her whenever i can - even when it seems 'out of the blue'. Usually talking to her when she doesn't have any of her friends around, making it seem that SHE is the only one i would want to talk to. While talking to her - I may give her compliments and even ask alot of questions (thats a sure way of finding out information about the person).

Also when you two are talking does he look into your eyes? (not the death stare type but the relaxed gentle stare -- like he is admiring them) From my recent experience in talking to the girl im fond of - I looked into her eyes and we held eye contact for a considerable amount of time! Also take note on how close he is to you when he is talking to you..is it a fair distance or intimately close (face to face). Being close to you may be a good sign (kind of means that he isn't afraid of being close).

I hope this was a little helpful - also this is my first post! Howdy all!

[mmj]

If he's nervous then he may actually try not to look into her eyes. It's an idiotic thing to do but a lot of guys actually try to hide their feelings and girls can misinterpret this, and think the guy's not interested.

So, this is why I say don't rely on a guy to give you signals.

This only applies to some guys. That's what makes it even more confusing. And a guy can 'get over it' after a couple of years and start getting the courage to talk to girls and make eye contact.

Nowadays I'm over it. I can look into a girl's eyes. But a few years ago if I had a crush on a girl I'd totally avoid her. It was terrible because I now realise that because I was too gutless to talk to her or even look at her, she got the wrong idea.

[wilsongrad]

slightly touch his arm or hand, if his eyes meetyours, then slowly move in for a kiss.

[reign226]

Isn't that albeit too fast? And yeah, I agree with mmj. Let it be a paradigm from now on to NEVER RELY ON MALES TO SEND SIGNALS. :D