Need some guy advice...

[BadKitty21]

Ok. I'm 21 and am in a committed relationship. In the very beginning of our relationship, before he and I slept together, our "makeout sessions" were INTENSE. I have never been so turned on by anyone in my entire life. Now that we've comfortably been dating/sleeping together for over a year and a half and living together for almost a year, it's not like he has to TRY to get me to sleep with him...obviously he knows he can have what he wants when he wants it. Sex is SO good with him, but I think making out is the biggest turn on ever. He kisses me during sex which I love, but I want to sensually make out like we did at the beginning of our relationship....how do I get him to do that without having to explain all that to him?! And guys, do you still enjoy making out when you're in a long term relationship??

[ChrisS]

Personally? Yes I do like to make out.. I see it as foreplay and enjoy it, it prolongs and makes the sex that much better..

I do know some guys that have thought that after the first couple months that it goes out the window.. Ya just gotta prod him abit.. Dont let him rush things.. Tease him, one thing that I use to love is when the woman took over..

[pacifikix]

Yes, definitely don't let him rush it. If you want to keep the make-out session alive you should tease him a little with some deep soulfull looks. I am a big fan of the makeout and it is a real turn on, when the girl keeps me waiting!

[voland]

I've been in a number of long-term relationships and have known and spoken to other men who could say the same thing.

Once a man has lived with a woman for awhile, he tends to lose interest in making out just for the sake of making out. Making out is a prelude to sex for most men and the longer they live with a woman the shorter the time span of all the luvey-dovey stuff that leads up to sex (after all, your woman knows you love her, and you have other other stuff on your mind).

It's not that they, and I, don't still make out with our women; of course you have to to keep the peace, but in general a man prefers a much shorter prelude to sex than a woman does.

I don't know what to tell you but compromise.

[wilsongrad]

Never compromise, when two people compromise, either one or both give up something and it might turn to resentment later down the line.
You have to remember that those make out sessions were at the beginning, when you both were unsure of where the relationship was going. The make out sessions were good for him because they made him feel comfortable in a uncertain situation. Now that the comfort of being together is there, you do not want to jeapordize any thing.
here is an idea.
take him somewhere that he is uncomfortable. be his support with your eyes and smile. show him that no matter where you are at he has you for that security. in doing so, sneek around and kiss. rub his back and neck. and in a moment alone make out, that will be the start, and it will be up to you to do the teasing.

[Ardge]

Originally posted by BadKitty21
Ok. I'm 21 and am in a committed relationship. In the very beginning of our relationship, before he and I slept together, our "makeout sessions" were INTENSE. I have never been so turned on by anyone in my entire life. Now that we've comfortably been dating/sleeping together for over a year and a half and living together for almost a year, it's not like he has to TRY to get me to sleep with him...obviously he knows he can have what he wants when he wants it. Sex is SO good with him, but I think making out is the biggest turn on ever. He kisses me during sex which I love, but I want to sensually make out like we did at the beginning of our relationship....how do I get him to do that without having to explain all that to him?! And guys, do you still enjoy making out when you're in a long term relationship??

Hey BK, I totally understand what you're saying. Kisses can be so magic sometimes. Its a shame that they themselves have to stop. I too have had someone kiss me like that. We called them "Melt Me" kisses. I remember some of them going on for over an hour. Just me, her, and a couch or something. Dim the lights, turn the music down, and boom. Nothing else in the world mattered.

Oh well, before I get all weepy eyed from great memories, let me give you some advice on how to rekindle those kisses in your life with him.

In a setting where it is very hard to be intimate, (out to dinner with friends, standing in line at a movie, walking through the grocery store, etc.) grab him and plant one on him like there is no tomorrow. When he regains consciousness and asks what that was for, say nothing. Just smile and continue the conversation where it was before the kiss. Go about your normal lives and then a day or so later, do that same thing again. Knock his socks off with another kiss. (Remember it has to be done in hard to be intimate settings.... riding the Metra, walking through a book store, waiting on a red light in traffic, etc. ... For safety sake, if you choose my last setting, maybe you should be driving the car too. You can brace yourself for the intensity of that lip lock. If I was your boyfriend and you laid a melt me kiss on me, I know driving a car would not be one of my best skills.... at least for a few hours.) Again, say nothing when he asks what is causing you to rock his world. Just smile and pick up the conversation where it left off.

Do this maybe three times over the course of a week. Make SURE he sees fireworks too. These kisses can't be confused with just nice, semi-normal kisses.

You said that your boyfriend loves to kiss you. If this is correct, then those kisses will be on his mind all week. He's bound to ask you about them again. When he does, and you feel the time is right, tell him what you told me. Tell him you LOVE kissing him so much, you kinda miss the "make out" sessions. Tell him that his love making is wonderful (stress this actually) but also tell him you are actually burning for just his kiss sometimes. Knowing they won't be interrupted for other activities sometimes satisfies you like no other. A gentleman would understand this and a true romantic will feel the same way. After a week's worth of appetizers, I am sure he'd be game for a night filled with them as a main course. I know for certain I would.

There is nothing like a kiss. I miss them so. Its been awhile and I am writing through glassy eyes right now thinking of that wonderful magic given through "her" kisses. Those Melt Me kisses rocked me so hard. It has been years, but I sometimes still dream of them.... her. Wow.

I wish you the best of luck BK. I hope you find this post. I pray that you find what you are looking for and that everything works out.

Friends,
RJ

[BadKitty21]

Hi All!
It has been a long time since I have logged in, but I really appreciate your posts. Especially this last one...."Melt Me" kisses. Wow, that describes it so perfectly. I'm glad to know that there are people out there who know what I'm talking about! I will take all your advice into consideration and we'll see what happens! I'll keep you posted!

Luv,
BC :devil: :D ;)