Why don't women call?

[Rey75]

Once a friend told me "No mater what, a girl will not call a guy." I didn't believe him until this was put to the test. I gave my number away but not to see if she'll call or not. I really wanted to get to know her and, nothing. If there is any one out there that knows why a women will not a guy, give me a clue.

[Karen82]

I think if you are interested in her, you should call her instead of waiting for her to call you.

Maybe she didn't call cos she is not interested. Or maybe she want you to take the initiative.

[Latino Heat]

Yeah its true: If a girl dont call you its because she dont loves you!!!

[sephiroth32198]

women simply dont call because a man is the leader for lack of better words of the relationship at least that is the was society looks at and influences it

[darkangel]

Well, i know i call guys! and i also know i can't be the only one who does. If a guy gives me their number.. i'll call em. i just won't call them immediately... but i DO call! and if a girl doesn't call you.. it doesn't mean they're not interested.. it just means they are either shy or intimidated.. i mean, come on! If all girls were the same, where would the fun be???

[Tyler]

Luckily we still have girls like darkangel. :)

[darkangel]

Thank you lots Tyler! Im glad guys accept my way of looking at things.. because sometimes people are too close minded!

[katty]

;) I agree with darkangel. We DO call, but not at once. Maybe few days later or so. If we don't call, it means we are not interested and wouldn't wish to give the other party false hope.

Don't worry, Rey75. You will meet some girl who will call you willingly and perhaps even have a chance to develop further. good luck!

[HopeLess20]

Why we don't call is bcuz. we think if we call to early then it will scare the guyz a way. but if the guyz call us then we don't get the same feeling. but yeah if you do like her u should call her. and don't wait around for her. If she doesn't call you back then she doesn't know what she missed. So you can call her or say the hell with you. you missed out loser!!!!!;)

[jidk]

Well I am a guy and I feel quite impressed when a lady calls me!!
I know a lot of girls won't call a guy, but take it from an old timer, we like it. I know I will take the first step to call if she is right, but sometimes she can make it right by calling. It's a two way street out there called love, romance and friendship. Don't feel ashame or offended ladies. You two can take the first step. Doen't make you easy to get or target to hit on. Just do it!!!!

[Sweetheart]

:devil: :devil: :eek2: :p :p :D well here is some advice on why women don't call guys...if they are both interested in each other why not have the guy pursue the women? Does that make sense? yes...it does...the guy im dating he is pursuing me and its fun....cause i like to play hard to get.....he calls me i call him only if i cannot make the date...;-) so try....and if u don't like her let her know just be friends first that is the only way to be...I hope this helps u...

Aloha, Sweetheart...;-)

[E76]

It isn't just girls. I have known men who wouldn't call. I don't mind being the only one who calls, I just want to be sure that they want to hear from me. If not, I just quit.

[mesmerised]

In my opinion it doesn't make much a difference whether it is a boy or a girl, however both of them have there reasons why to call or not to call!

Both boys and girls can be shy and thus makes it diffucult to have a conversation over a telephone line.
You can say that SMS's can be used however this also may have some problems. Girls usually are raised to think that is the male figure that runs behind the girl and not vice versa. Thus a some girls always waits for the male fugure to do the first step. As i said there are some girls that will make the first step, but usually these are girls who were rasied together with other boys (either brothers or firends).

Usually girls want to be with boys who take action, that fear nothing and that are always comftable in any situation. Thus this is a simple test they make on us to check whether we are strong enough for them.

My advise is to always wait for a day to show her that you are not needy, and then when you talk to her be comftable, remember you are doing something that men kind has been doing for these last 5000 years :)

Also I would like that girls phone as well!! Personaly I would really like it if a girl showed me more interest, and tries to make some steps to be near then me, it shoes me that she can love and not play an act!! ... but thats just my opinion!

[Circles]

I will call guy, once. And if he never returns my call, or returns any sort of communication. I quit. Because it has been my experience that it can be quite more embarrasing to a woman than it is to a man when that happens.

The discovery channel had a special on, like, a year ago, about the male/female courtship. And it was very fascinating. They discussed male/female anatomy, including the brain. And a point that they brought out is that because women, before birth are exposed to estrogen, our brain is more wired within each section of the brain.. The male brain compartmentalizes emotions, while women don't. So, they literally said that something like fear, dominates the brain. It can influence many other aspects of the mind/brain.

Women can experience fear on a much greater level than Men. So, i think that may be a part of the reason why women have a harder time calling then men do...

anyways...that's the discovery channels opinion on it...lol

[E76]

I think we are just as afraid as women. We are just expected to hide it.

[Fireangel]

I'd think that if I call him he'll feel he's already got me 100% without it being truth. I don't want to send the wrong message.

[E76]

You have a point there. If a girl called me, I would feel that she was practically in love with me, or that it was a joke and she was making fun of me. No happy medium there. :xeye:

[Renegade611]

You have a point there. If a girl called me, I would feel that she was practically in love with me, or that it was a joke and she was making fun of me. No happy medium there. :xeye:

I wouldn't take it like that at all, it would just show me that she's interested in getting to know me as well.

[BajaBwk]

I know exactly what you mean i went through so many girls that never called me untill the latest one who always calls me and always calls back. i was so blown away by that i didnt know what to think. but i believe she made the effort to call me back becuase she likes me.
BLake

[Renegade611]

Thats all I'm saying, I wouldn't say I had her wrapped around my little finger, but at least I know I had a chance. Instead we have to read minds, so if I leave a message and she doesn't call back I should call her again? Hell I just figured she wasn't interested and didn't want to talk anymore :o :wall:.

[Stroika]

Guys call girls, after you're on good terms, then calls can go either way. But by that time you'll know you're both into eachother.

[C162]

A girl likes to run tests on guys to gauge how interested he really is in her. One of them is waiting to see if he calls, when he calls, and how often he calls.

You should never expect a girl to call you for the first time unless she has already called you once on her own initiative (and even then it's still shady).

As a man, you should take charge and call her--but don't be desperate. In my opinion there shouldn't be any rules on "wait x days before calling"...just go on your gut feeling. But if I were to put it into guideline form, I would say wait atleast 2 days. If she was really interested in you when you got the #, make her wait an extra day or two; if her interest level was low or moderately low, call on the 2nd day.

If she's really into you, after she's called you once on her own initiative, if you know how to make her wait just long enough to where she's really interested and doesn't get fed up and just move on (it's a fine line), you can get her to call you and make most of the effort.

And don't use the phone to chit-chat or you're going to bore her quick! Use the phone to setup a get-together, then get off the phone! As you get to know her more, you can progressively spend more and more time on the phone. You don't want to turn into one of her girlfriends.

C162

[Stroika]

AMAZING POST C162!!! Dead on! Shows how girls work. It's pretty weird when you break it down...there's a very subtle dance that must be performed if you're to catch a girl. That's the game and if you wanna win you gotta play.

[MaxO]

then how if a woman gives u her number, you messages her, she knows it was from you but never replys it back why's that!?

[Stroika]

Cuz she's trying to see how needy you are...if you'll keep calling. You leave one message, that's it. No call back?..."NEXT!". lol

[Renegade611]

So your saying it goes the same way for leaving voice messages too? One message thats it, no call back just move on right? I always figured I'd give her 2 chances after that the number goes in the trash.

[Stroika]

Yeah, you could get away with two...the first should be maybe 2 days after getting her number, then the second would have to be about 5 days after that. The second one better be creative though. ;)

[Labala]

A girl not calling u is not a sign that she doesn't like you. For example, I currently like a guy, like extremely. I will sit at home and think about calling him, but i never do. So if a girl doesn't call you, don't take it personally.

[MaxO]

labala!! you're so much like the one i've known!!, can you please tell me more about your self- like what you would like a guy to do for you, but as you know not only girls are shy, guys felt the same way too sometimes, theres one girl i've been sms her for quite a while now, but she never reply it back like i said before, ye but i know that she likes me- it's just it's so hard for me to call her, i'm always nervous when i saw her- theres once that she called me at night but i damn missed it... is this a good sign? ye but there's still much to tell but i just can't be bothered to type that much, so if you're interested in my story and would like to help please add me - max_well01@hotmail thanx