getting over a loved one

[nekosmilee]

I'm new at this and i'm not quite sure how many of you would respond. Or how many of you might think that i'm crazy. However, i've been with a guy for about two years and we were pretty much in love. We did things together and we had almost moved in together. We've been through sooo much that the pain that he has left me still hurts. While I was with him, I worked my butt off to provide him with everything that he absolutely needed, and vice versa. However, while we were together, he never had a stable job the way i held a job. In other words, he depended on me and his family thinks that their son is so "independant".

Anywayz, it's been six months since we've been a part and yet here I am still thinking about him. I keep hoping and praying that we would get back together. However, it's sort of hard because of our past. Because when we broke up, he has hurt me physically and emotionally. Hurting me physically has made my family turn for help...in other words they pressed charges against him. I didn't want that to happen but there was nothing much that i can absolutely do. But I cried and cried, day and night.

Now...i'm missing him and I seriously wnat him back into my life. I need him more than anything. I am willing to give it another chance because that i how much I love him. I believe that everything and everyoen makes mistakes and that situations like these deserves a second chance.

My only concern is....DO YOU THINK THAT HE WOULD WANT TO GIVE US ANOTHER CHANCE?! When I spoke to my ex, he did tell me that he still loved me and that he does want to get back but maybe in about a year or two. Like I said, we've been apart for about 6 months...in about another year and a half or less...would he come back and sewwp me off my feet all over again.

I need help....I miss him sooo much and he's the only one I think about. I can't get him off my mind and I can't think of another guy. Help me...how can I at least stop to think about him and put my heart to rest and stop it from getting hurt.

[Byron]

Stay away from a guy who will hurt you physically.
Stay away from a guy who will depend on you financially.

If he still love you he will definately want to give the two of you another chance even if you are separted for 6 months or two yyears. I have the feeling that he want this relationship back but you must be ready that he will not have a stable job and will still hurt your physically and emotionally.

I have a question to ask. What does he want to get back together only in about a year or two later?

[Velvet]

Be careful of a guy who will hurt you physically. Why love him when you did that to you? Though it's hard to let go. But believe me, time will heal. Give yourself some time to forget about him. Don't do it purposely cos you will not forget that way. Just don't think about it. Do some other things and get to know some other guys. Don't get youself hurt.

[nekosmilee]

I know that I should try to move on ane meet new guys, however, I have done that and honestly, I can't seem to think of anybody else but him. Honestly, even he knows about what's up with me and who I was seeing and all. He usually gets his friends to check up on me to see if I'm okay and basically to see if I have changed. I know that he still cares and all but how can I make myself to just say ...." alright just wait for the right time?!" I'm sooo confused and I totally miss him.

Byron...this answers your question....the reason why he wants to get back within a year or two is to let things heal between families. In other words....he wants to cool things off first and have my family and friends accept him back. That is the reason why he wants to get back within that time frame....sort of dumb but I comepletely understand.

Anywayz, this is really hard for me, especially after pouring out my entire heart, mind, body and soul to my very first love of my life. But I know thta time will heal, I guess you can say that I'm just not quite at that stage quite yet. But hoping that I will.