Does he like me...or is he just being nice?

[smilesintx]

Okay...here's the deal...I met this guy that's in a band about a month ago. One of my friends pointed out to me that he looked at me 19 times in one song. I thought he was cute, so I talked to him for a little while after they performed. He told me to email "the band" and they would email me back, so I emailed them. Okay...before they performed that night there were 14 skits performed by different people. I was Men In Black in one of them. So...he emailed me back and said..."how could I ever forget the girl in black?!" A few weeks later some friends and I drove 250 miles to see them perform again. While we were talking, he mentioned that I was a little out of my "200 mile radius"...(I told him in my email that I wouldn't mind driving 200 miles to see them). I emailed him again, and he wrote back saying..."I'm EXTREMELY tired, but I wanted to write you while you were on my mind." (I think I'm just reading too much into the things he says, b/c I really like him.) I thought he was interested until last night...I IMed him and he didn't say ever much at all. He did say that he had just woke up, but I don't think he was too tired to talk :confused: I just don't know...any advice?

[hjpt]

I think that he might have been just too tired to IM effectively. From what you said before that, it sounds like he is interested, and you've shown that you are interested as well. Keep in contact with him and hopefully it'll turn around - it looks good from my perspective.

[garage sale]

there are possiblities, just try not to get your hopes up. once your hopes are up, then you'll get sad if nothing works out. al contraire, if it does, then you can be pleasantly surprised ;)

i learned this the hard way.

[meg]

AGH!!! Don't follow the guy in the band around!
They want people to show up to see them. They need the crowds to promote themselves. If he had an interest, he wouldn't be too tired to talk with you. Meg

[sashay78]

I agree with meg. Questions to ask yourself: who IMs first? Do you make the first step in everything? If so, then stop chasing.

Let him come to you if he cares.

[reign226]

IM, IMHO, is an unconducive way of prolonging a relationship and even harder to start one. Why? Well, it's something to do with the IM Mood Theorem, or whatever you like to call it. I have my moods fluctuate from 'I'm a horny IM machinegun' to 'monosyllabic jerk who's probably wanking in front of the computer and is too busy to reply' kind of state several times per day. Sometimes, you just catch people while they're busy and then interpet it as disinterest.

Meanwhile, I have my own questions. If you always initiate an IM, is that constituted as 'annoying people'? Are there anyone out there who likes to be IM'ed first so they always wait for the other person to take the initiative? I mean, friends don't do that, right? Enlighten me.