can u help me out....

[Joseph JAy]

i have a problem....i have a real hard time talkin to girls now idk y.....like yesterday i saw a bunch of girls i knew and i had no idea of wat to say..i was stumped, i also have a feeling that my self confidence has downsized a whole bunch...and i've tried everything to bring it back up....i want to have a girls but if i get one i dont think i can keep one because of the way i'm acting......i am stumped and i am gettin worried so please help ......if anyone has any ideas ...hepl:bawling: :confused:

[Fireangel]

Women are not aliens, women are just like men but with a different stereotype. Women worry as much as guys of the impression they are gonna leave in them. You don't have to worry as much. Try to be calm and breathe slowly before starting a conversation with a girl and get the nerves to actually talk to her. THERE IS NOTHING TO LOSE, THERE IS MUCH TO BE WON. You can gain a friendship, a girlfriend or even a person you will be able to meet, if something bad happens don't give as much attention to that. I've learned that people are so concerned in themselves that they don't pay as much attention to other people as we think they do. Take it slow, chill out and be yourself. Self Confidence in a man is definitly a number one turn on. Work on it. You are what you project.

[pacifikix]

I absolutely agree with Fireangel. Don't worry so much about what they think of you, and be confident in yourself. The worst that could happen is you will end up with some new friends. Here's a tip though that a girl gave to me on meeting and talking to women. Practice, practice, practice! Talk to ANY girl, the one at the coffeshop, a girl you work or go to school with. Don't even think about what they look like. Even if the girl is hideous, just make conversation. This will get you used to talking to women and people in general. You have to de-mystify these girls you like. They worry about the same things you do, and yes they fart from time to time as well! Once you get in this habit, you will have no problem! Best of luck, you can do it!

[Judas]

Yeah, since they fart too you could just go up and rip a good one right in front of them. Then you'll have your embarrasment over with and they'll probably feel more at ease passing gas in front of you. Plus, you won't have to think of anything compelling to say other than "Ahhh, that was a nice out!".
Seriously tho, I think women are big on the man's confidence level. I guess it's that internal Hunter/Provider thing. That's why all those pompous a--holes that treat women like dirt always have girlfriends. (Can't stand those guys.)
On the other hand...if these are just female friends-not romantic-than the whole digestive track angle opens up so many humorous topic options for you. If you're hanging out with them you could just come out of nowhere with, "You (just pick one of them) look like you have a lot of bowel problems, what do you take for diarrhea?" You would think that would get you shunned but people like abstract stuff like that. Just make sure they've got a good sense of humor(albeit toilet humor) and it's at the right time. :devil:

[reign226]

What does woman like to talk about anyway? Do they enjoy confiding their feelings more openly amongst themselves rather than males? I know a few friends who seem to go forever on a conversation yet I have no idea how even to start. And a lot of times, the conversations are really silent and intimate-ly but done with regular female friends - conversations I consider to be very intimate. Are some guys simply born with this talent or what?