Does he like me or not?

[yummymummy]

So - there is this guy whom I see quite often where he works. When I go in to his place of employment (sometimes by myself, sometimes with my 3 year old daughter) he makes a beeline for us or drops what he is doing to talk to us. Literally he can spend 30 minutes talking only to us, ignoring his customers, and letting his work basically wait. He says my daughter is his "buddy" (he tells all his customers and co-workers this) and of course she absolutely adores him. One time he was going to look something up for us while his co-worker waited on us, but instead he turned around and told his co-worker HE could help us and wait on us. He recently went on vacation and bought my daughter a small, inexpensive present; but left it at the hotel. My daughter asked him if he would go to her favorite place to eat and he promised he would soon. Between work, he goes to school and plays sports. SO, what I want to know is does this guy like me or my kid? He is always staring at my boobs and he talks to me about his roommates and his stuff and I talk about my stuff as well. I told him the other day I was going to cook something and I replied that I hoped my daughter would eat it, and he said if she didn't, I could bring it to him. What gives?

P.S.: He also tells me in a subtle way, what days he is workng and when he is not.

[Karbonopsinos]

Sounds nice, however I would watch out for your daughter. Sometimes men approach women with an ulterior motive that goes beyond that woman....to her friends and family. This overfriendliness with your daughter (not you) by a man who is neither her father nor her blood relation nor can be her friend in any way as she is not mature enough to have built a friendship with a much older person, sets off major alarm bells. He may be a pedophile.

Then again, this could just be an overreaction of mine and everything's fine. I would just say "watch out."

[jomi]

I don't necessarily agree with Karb, I think that with all of the insane people that are out there in the world you should be careful at ALL times with your little girl. But I think that he does like you and he wants to show you how excepting he is of your child, and even how good a step dad he could be...if it came to that. Why don't you try to ask him to dinner just the two of you, and see how it goes...after that one date you should be able to decipher if it's you he's actually interested in.
Hope it goes well!! :)

[quipnot]

I will add one thing, Never let anyone be alone with your child. Unless you are related by blood or experience. A kid can be traumatized for life in a matter of seconds. Don't even send her to a public bathroom alone.