Crush

[burned11]

I noticed this hot guy at work (we don't work in the same department
thought). He came into the mailroom a couple of times so I was
interested in finding out more about him. Came to find out that he
was living with his girlfriend, they have a baby together and he
wasn't happy. I got up the nerve to write him a note saying to call
me. He did and things went great. He was thrilled at what I did and
thought it was so cool. We got together the next night for a few
drinks at my house. Nothing sexual happened. No kissing and no
sex. The only things was he gave me a back rub cuz I was fighting a
cold and my muscles ached. On that note, we've been saying hi to
each other at work and we did bump into each other at the bar once in
which we slow danced. I send him candy through the routing all the
time which he says thanks every time and says he really likes when I
do that. Sounds all good except for the girlfriend part right?
Well, now he's kicking her out. The last time I talked to him he
said she had half of her stuff packed and is on a waiting list for an
apartment. He says he's happy about that. So where does this leave
me? I'm wondering what steps I take now and how do I go about
letting him know that I'm head over heels for him. I came close to
telling him one time that I wised he didn't have a girlfriend but i
didn't. And now that came true. I'm hoping this means there is a
chance for us. But I'm uncertain at how to go about it. I'm
thinking that he is interested in me by what has happened and I want
him to know that I feel that way. Please help me.

[Karbonopsinos]

You're sick. And that guy seems like a f*cking bastard. To be kicking out a woman with whom he has a baby? The mother of his child? And I'm sure she's taking the baby with her, so he's kicking out his own kid as well?

Why do you want this guy? He's not even human.

[Nice Girl]

Wow, what kind of situation did you get yourself into?

Why couldn't you wait until he resolve his personal issues? Don't you feel guilty now?
Unhappy or not, no matter what caused is unhappiness with his 'at-home' relationship, shouldn't the fact that he is putting out is child and the mother out like that makes you second guess getting close to him.

Sounds like this guy is clearing house to make you his next statistic. Step back and give this confused fellow time to take care of his business. Remember, this girl will always be apart of his life because of their child.

[MyMatt2003]

I agree with Karbon and Nice girl...
Have you even looked at everything from the child and the mothers point of view? What this guy is going is a very sick thing, throwing out his baby and his mother???.. are you sure you want to be drawn into that? What if this guy gets you pregant? You'll be exactly what Nice Girl said, another statistic...

[Gan]

I agree with everyone as well. He's a jerk and you're almost as bad. Makes me ashamed that I'm a male - I can't believe guys do this crap!!

-Gan

[CarinaZorra7426]

look, it could just be the mother of his kid realized just what an @$$hole he is and so SHE is LEAVING him. Hell I was living with my son's father and I left his punk @$$ once I realized what a creep he was - my son was less than a yr old at the time. We don't know the whole situation, so we can't really put blame on anyone EXCEPT for BURNED who knowingly pursued a man that was living with a woman.
Burned just chill, wait to see what happens, if he wants you, you'll know - if not, buy some chunky monkey ice cream and watch When Harry Met Sally and realize that IF the man is either married or living with someone and STILL going out with you - you are destined for sadness, because the in next go-round, you'll be the one sitting at home while he's after fresh meat.

[mmj]

Exactly. He's a jerk.

But she's a homewrecker. I get so sad when I hear stories like this.