Can Romance be overrated?

[MyMatt2003]

A couple of days ago, I heard people talking about that Romance is 'overrated' I myself is a romantic person.. not just in love or dating but as a person as well.. Lately I've been hearing people asking "whats so good about romance?" "Romance is boring"
I'm just so confused on this.. is romance overrated? I love romance.. I love reading romantic poetry, not just on love but on nature as well.. but is romance just a natural feeling we get when we are with someone? is romance were we only think with our hearts? I mean how can some people think its overrated? It's so hard to put this question together, and everytime I think about it I get more confused, can someone help me out?
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[Pandora1980]

Some people just don't like the mushy things. The people you overheard may be in a realtionship lacking romance and they're saying it to make themself feel better or maybe it was some guy saying it to his girlfriend b/c he's too lazy or non-creative to be romantic with her. Or maybe it was someone who was just hurt or if it was a table full of guys, they may have been just acting touch for eachother.
My boyfriend is not the overly romantic type but he does things that I consider romantic just because he was thinking about me. Maybe those people don't consider that romantic, but I do.

[AlexAnt]

Well, there is jealousy, where those who have no romance in their lives attempt to downplay its significance but secretly wish they could experience it. And there is defensiveness, where those who have been hurt in the past by themselves to others are scarred and reluctant to do so again. They too will downplay romance, perhaps seeing it as "overrated" because they've unfortunately only experienced the broken kind of romance that hurts. They will slag romance off as overrated or a load of crap, but deep down, it's very possible that they do respect it but could only ever allow this respect to come to the surface with the help of the right partner.

Alex

[hopeless1]

Alex I am the same way I love Romance I'm a very romantic person I dont know why I just am I love makeing love in a bath tube of rose petals...writing and reading love poems Your could call me a "hopeless" romantic.....Is romance overrated?Well its really up too you if you think that!

[Serrene]

People posting on a romance board probably aren't likely to say that romance is overrated. ;)

Wanting romance, being romantic, and being fulfilled by romantic things is a very individual trait. It means more to some people than others, the people it means less would probably claim romance is iverrated.

However, don't take light conversations too seriously. If people are talking with casual friends and acquaintances they won't be likely to admit to their mooshy side. :)

[Pandora1980]

Serrene is right, maybe we're not the most un-biased group. Although I will tell you why I think romance is important. My parents don't do anything romantic for eachother. I'm pretty sure my mom is sad with her marriage. I don't knw that my dad is happy either- may be because my mom is sad.
My boyfriend's parents aren't romantic with eachother either, but his ex girlfriend's parents were. Neiher of us knew that married couples could still be head over heels for eachother after being married for 20 years.
I think it's pretty important. If a couple can't be romantic with eachother while dating- do you really think it'll happen magically after mariage. Most likely not. If one person in a relationship us unhappy, the other will probably be too.
Romance is made to let the other person know they're loved. I personally would be unhappy in a relationship where I doubt that the other person loves me.

[meg]

Everyone is different, every relationship is different. Just keep being your romantic self and the right female will notice and be attracted to you. Meg