first kiss not picture perfect

[razvan]

i should start by saying that it wasn't bad, only just not like movie-perfect

well, she is always "affraid she'll mess things up" , and i tell her "hey, if you won't risk anything, how do u ever expect to discover new feelings, sensations, etc."

she left for 2 weeks in another city, so i won't see her for that time (it's way to far for me to visit :( ) So, the day before she left we both wanted to make it special and what woud be better than the 1st kiss. Only she was like scared of me or something, but i'm like sorry, i thought it was the right time, but she says that ya, she wants it, but she was scared or something. Anyways it took me 20 minutes or so to get her to cooperate, and it was great.

Afterwards, we talked and she was like very sorry she acted like that, and doesn't know how i can love her if she's so bad at showing affection. Well, she isn't that bad, but it seems like there are 2 persons in her, one that sais "Go for it!" and one that says "no, wait, what if you mess things up"

in summary, we both have a pleasant memory, but i am not sure how to act in the future with kissing and stuff

PLEASE tell me what u think of all this :)

[Zero]

Well, the first kiss can be kind of awkward... at least you didnt try to french kiss on the first date ;-)

Everyone has a different taste, some people say dont kiss on first date, kiss on cheek, or just go for it. How long were you together before it happened? She may not yet feel comfortable. Give it time and see if she opens up

[razvan]

we are going out for about 2 months, i kissed her on the cheek many times, i held her in my arms many times, and she's comfortable with all that.

French kiss her? :P i get the feeling it will be looong time

[hopeless1]

Ha........

My first kiss....Was when i was in Pre-K. It was nap time and this little boy who liked me can and laid down next to me and ha poked my on my shoulder and said can i tell you something in your ear and i was like ok the he kissed me on my cheak and i said i wanted to tell him something and i was going to kiss him on his cheak but he turned his head and i got his lips.... i was so scaired after that i never talked to him for the rest ok the day.....dont ask how i remember tha i just do:)

[Joseph JAy]

I had a girl that i didn't even kiss till the first two months
If u want to french kiss this girl u proly going to show her how b/c she probably doesn't kno or maybe she is scared she'll clank teeth with u....

[razvan]

explain her, yup, probably i'll have 2 do that, i'm almost sure actually. how the heck will i do that not knowing myself too much about it, only what i read :(

for now i'll be glad if i won't have trouble getting her to normal-kiss me; see, she is was like "it [1st kiss] was supposed to be a magical moment, but i ruined it"

i must make her more optimistic, she thinks it's always her fault :(

[Zero]

i must make her more optimistic, she thinks it's always her fault

My gf was/is like that... she never initates either. Its a big cause of a relationship i want to get out of. When I want that sort of thing, I have to start. When I want to just cuddle on the couch and watch TV, I have to go and get it. She knows no intimacy :-( She got better at it, but it was still a block in our relationship. We already had a friendship before we started dating, but I can't get closer to her in an initmate sense... oops sorry, off topic rant...

Just make sure you're able to talk to her about these things and share your feelings together

[razvan]

When I want to just cuddle on the couch and watch TV, I have to go and get it.



ok, at least i know i'm not the only one with this kind of problems. What you said here reminds me exactly what happens if i go to her place and we watch TV in her really nice basement with comfortable couch : she like sits at almost half a meter away, i have to get close and kinda tell her how i want her to sit (cuddle).

one other thing : how can i get HER to show some affection? see, for example: let's say i lay on the couch, my head on her lap (u know what i mean, right?) well se is like an still object, she wouldn't touch me at all or show any form of affection... it's kinda strange...i dunno

[Joseph JAy]

first u gotta find wat makes her feel good and important....give her a massage or even kiss her on the ear or her belly....try to giver her a massage with her letting u give it to her like she is laying face first down on the bed or sumthin.....play with her neck and her hair..she will like it but dont be a pain in the butt juss do it softly to wat she seems more comfy...and juss sit by urself next time and dont go get it like u say u kno....juss be casual and calm and over time she will come to u more often....how long have u been goin out again??????

[idunno]

Originally posted by Zero
Well, the first kiss can be kind of awkward... at least you didnt try to french kiss on the first date ;-)



Story for you all, please read and give comment...thanks!

When i was in highschool, it took til 12th grade but thanks to some assumption by someone i didnt know, some girl came to think that i liked her (but i didnt at the time). However over time i did begin to like her and then one day she just came to me and said that she liked me so we began to "talk". Then one day after drama rehersal we were just talking and maybe it was because she had broke up with her b/f of a year and a half so she was into all this or that she just really liked me but my first kiss she definetly turned into a french kiss. We wernt even going out at the time. Because of me being very shy and hadnt ever gone out with anyone, or really even "talked" to anyone, so natrually i wanted things to work out well with us so i just went along with it kinda blindfoldly because having your very first kiss to be a french kiss was just "strange". I cant come up with a more definitave word then that....What would you have done?

I think i may have not done the right thing and it didnt work out with us at all :(

[razvan]

i also am very shy, or was ... in a way, cuz now that my gf is mega shy, i have to be less shy and so i am not so shy anymore, if that makes sense.
-->i dunno what i would have done in your place. Did it work out after all? Or you two broke up? Personally i think i wouldn't have done it, knowing she just broke up with her bf, but than again, being as shy as you, probably in the actual stage of doing that, i too would have played along. Also, i don't know how muck you liked her. If you really did like her, maybe it was the right thing to do. But maybe she didn't really have any deep feelings for you, what if she did everything just cuz she was heartbroken and desperate? I dunno, AND don't take my word for anything since this is the 1st serious relationship i've ever been into (right now = 5 months since we're together) and ya...i'm no expert in those things.

[Sk8rBoyMC]

Hello all,

razvan, I have the same problem...wait, its not really a problem, just a minor setback...we've worked out way up to small "peck" goodbye kiss, and its been a whole month, but anyway, thats not what my post is about.

Do you females out there think its not too wierd for a guy to kiss your ear? that just seems like a more girl-to-guy type place to kiss...I dunno if I'll ever try it, maybe...depends what you all say

tyty
-Gizmo

[Truth Syrup]

ear = neck for a girl. Getting kissed on the ear is better left for guys.

[msluva913]

That is exactly how my first kiss with him went. We both liked each other but we hid it very well from each other not knowing if we should risk it and get our hearts broken like people before us have done to us. He teased that when he leaves for 2 weeks on a trip, he wants a goodbye kiss. The time came, it was the last time I would see him (I hung out with him probably 4 times before this) and it waited long enough that by the time we would do it was at the front door as I was leaving. I wasnt going to leave w/o kissing him but I was going to wait til the last second to see if he would make the first move (typical girl huh.) The door was open and I stepped out and he reminded me about the kiss we joked about. So, we pecked our lips....and the kiss was way off center and quick. No open mouths or anything. So yeah, basically it sucked but we both loved it so much. He thought I didnt like the kiss and kept apologizing in the letters I he wrote me (thinking I didnt want to kiss him and made me feel pressured or something) but I told him I wasnt leaving w/o kissing him. He would tell me that he would think about our kiss, and the hug we shared and would miss me soooo much. Infact we made that day our anniversary day...the day of our first kiss. That was 4 1/2 years ago :D Then when we came back we shared a much better (15 minute long!) kiss but that one was funny too cuz we both were afraid to use tongue so later he said that he just thought I was a bad kisser! He told me before the kiss that he has never used tongue to kiss a girl so I wasnt sure if he was willing to start with me. Oh well. Your first kiss together may have sucked...but it's a memory that will last forever. And you may even laugh about it later on! :)