How young is too young?

[hopeless1]

Ok..

My first time have sex is when i was 13 and now i am 21. but i wanna know is have sex at that age like i did bad? I want to know(if you dont mind telling) when was your first time and did u think you were too young to be doing this type of stuff.. the reason i ask is bcuz i dont know if it hurt me later in life like now i dont know by haveing sex at that young of an age was bad.. i will answer any of yalls questions about it...just plz help

[Karbonopsinos]

[in walks sullen Karbonopsinos]

Yes, it's very bad.

Sex is for men and women and 13-year olds are not men and women. They're boys and girls. They're neither sexually, nor, above all, emotionally mature enough for it.

[hopeless1]

well...

i know that i mean was it bad for me now too have sex that young did it hurt me anyway

[meg]

I'm unsure if you are asking medically or emotionally, hopeless...
In either case, having sex at such a young age can effect you. More than likely it already has or you wouldn't be asking.

I was 19 engaged to be married, one month before my wedding. I wish I wouldn't have. The day of my wedding I had changed my mind not to get married, but went through with it because I was having a sexual relationship with him. I was raised to believe that girls that weren't virgins weren't desirable. That isn't the case 9 out of 10 times. Guys that are quick to judge, need to re-examine their own lives. Meg

[Karbonopsinos]

Only those who aren't virgins themselves.

I would never take a non-virgin ---laughs

[hopeless1]

I mean emotionally...i mean after i did it i hated it like all people say your first is the one you always hate...I wanted it to be specal(spell check that) but all i got was the couch it sucked i cried for weeks over it and now i am woundering did that every hurt me emotionally?

[meg]

Hun, only you can answer that, How do you feel about yourself? How do you feel about sex? How do you feel about love? Committments? Your future? Ask yourself those questions and see how you feel it has affected you. Meg

[hopeless1]

Well...

Myself-I love myself I feel great about who I am.

Sex-Its beauitful(spell check that long day) and should be shared with someone you love.

Love-Its wounderful to have and even better to share with someone.

Committment-Sometimes it scares me well I lie it scares me.

Furture-I really dont know yet.

Thats my answers!..*laughs*

[Pandora1980]

You ask if it's bad, later you say you cried over it. You answered it yourself. Yeah it's bad for people to have sex that young, but it's aready done, the only thing you can do now is get couseling if you fel you need help dealing with it.

[hopeless1]

I dont need couseling*laughs* I am not that crazy
I just wanted to know if anyone else felt this way and what do u think is the right age to have sex?!

[Gan]

I really think people shouldn't have sex until their late teens (18-19). They're better equipped to deal with the consequences and (to be brief) have brains. I'd have to say too that you shouldn't really be sleeping with anyone until you've been going out with them for at least 6 months, then you really know if they care about you or not. There's heaps of things couples can do instead of intercourse anyway. I blame the young males mainly because they're the ones pressuring all the young girls to have sex with them. Frankly it makes me sick. Although the young girls are stupid for letting the guys do that to them...

...arrh, I'm going off topic a tad.... oops...

:D

-Gan

[hopeless1]

Well...

It wasnt like i was with him for a week then did it I got with him in to fourth grade and i was 10 at the tim and i was with him for 3 years after that so i had sex when i was in seventh gade and after we had sex we staied with each other for about another 3 years but i had to move away thats the only reason were not married right now i mean i was with him for about almost 7 years.....:( and i still love him but .....who knows

[Nice Girl]

I was 19 years old when I had sex for the first time. Emotionally and physically I was ready and it was great. I dated the guy for two years before I had sex and I have no regrets. We dated for 6 years before we went our separate ways and we remain friends to this day.

Now, I really think that age 13 is much too young to have sex because emotionally and physically you were not ready.
To it is not okay to associate a particular age with sex but at the same time older we get, we are expected to mature and be more responsible. It is also unfair to blame young males for the pressure they place on young girls because we do have the ability to say no and stick by it.

Young girls should first consider whether or not they will be able to deal with the various responsibilities associated with sex and if they are in a stage in their lives where they are unsure, talk to their parents, older sibling, aunt or a guidance counseling.

It is great that you acknowledged that their is more to a relationship than sex.

[voland]

It used to be socially acceptable for people at the age of 13 to get married and start having children (I understand the argument about the times being different, and people not living very long, etc., etc.,). My point is this; it didn't "scar" anybody back then, and it won't emotionally "scar" anybody now. Americans, especially, have a tendancy to coddle their children and hold them back from growing up.

If you have to ask if it hurt you, then it didn't.

[Karbonopsinos]

You know, in some ways I agree with you. Afterall, Gandhi got married when he was 13 and remained with his wife till the day she died. But still, when reading his biography, I did get the impression that even he was still somewhat of a child and a bit too immature to be married so soon.

[jrgenius]

yeah 13 is waaaay too early i'm 13 and im not going to be doing it any time soon:) so yeah you were too young

[Champ1]

13 is far too young to have sex -- and i don't think that the fact that girls mature earlier is a good enough reason! Still, everyone has different levels of maturity - I, for one feel like i'm to young to have sex - i'm nearing 21 but i still don't feel that i have the responsibility for the consequences - emotionally.

I blame the young males mainly because they're the ones pressuring all the young girls to have sex with them. Frankly it makes me sick. Although the young girls are stupid for letting the guys do that to them...

I agree in an instance of this quote -- most girls are usually pressured by young males to have sex (and vice versa) and sometimes at an early age it could emotionally trouble them at a later date -- perhaps a few years...when they figure out what its all about...this thing we call Life! So come on -- all you young fellas ....wait till you know what you are doing, please!!

[jamesravin57]

I did not have sex till my 20's, I guess because of morals and xtreme shyness. When 2 people have sex they bond both physically and emotionally and soul bonding (spiritual). In kmy experience it is a huge emptiness for that person when they just leave after sex. (YOU ADMITTED YOURSELF YOU STILL ARE BONDED TO THIS PERSON loVE, CARE ABOUT) that person still 8 years after at 21 . I do not trying to be mean, but yes you were wrong to do it because each time you keep doing it with another without lifetime commitment , you lose more and more of your integrity. Now that you have already done this , wait for your soulmate before doing it again ( you won't die)

[voland]

Bonding emotionally, and "spiritually" is for making love, and there's nothing wrong with that, of course. But for the love of God, don't worry about losing your soul just because you are human and want to experience pleasurable sensations."

There's a lot of people here confusing "sex" and "making love."

[Gan]

Originally posted by voland
Bonding emotionally, and "spiritually" is for making love, and there's nothing wrong with that, of course. But for the love of God, don't worry about losing your soul just because you are human and want to experience pleasurable sensations."

There's a lot of people here confusing "sex" and "making love."

I don't think people are confusing things Voland, it's just the way you think about it. In my books making love and sex are the same thing - to share with someone you really care about. To others, like yourself, sex and making love are two seperate things. That's fine, it's just the way you feel about it. Nobody is wrong in that respect.

-Gan

[hopeless1]

Thank you for posting everyone!!