Problem!

[Mouth of God]

in case no one has read my posts here is my problem...
let me first state there is pretty much nothing im afraid of,even death doesnt scare me i figure its just the answer to a question everyone lives to find out. Notice how i said there is pretty much nothing....I have 1 fear and thats calling girls. All my friends say im retarded for it and all my girl friends say its not a big deal...but for some reason i have this REALLY REALLY REALLY bad fear of calling girls i always fear im either interupting something, or that one of their parents are gonna answer and get really mad at me.
Because of this problem to my male friends they are like yea man you got game. but to the girls it makes me seem like a player so i have a real problem carrying on any long term relationships...But everytime i pick up the phone the same thought crosses my head "No no no they would call me if they werent busy" and most times they do but sometimes they dont and when they dont i really get strange...i get this feeling its like part nervousness and part regret like i did something wrong. MY girl FRIENDs are pretty hot,so when they give me information i normally take seriously but this is one thing i always let slip by me one of them once said "Your crazy you can call a girl like anytime and chances are she was waiting for you to call.......or she wont mind talking to you" and i just laughed but i know deep down thats bull . It has to be. I figure if i call a girl everyday im gonna seem like a pain in the ass maybe not to them but to their parents (which might be even worse).
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So basically my question is do girls like getting called by guys or do they prefer to call guys when they personally arent busy?
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Also she seems to speak insanely openly about sex like we were walking one night and somehow we started talking about stuff we or our friends did when they got drunk, long story short she started making orgasm sounds and talking about all this stuff,so i sorta laughed and was like "no comment on that one" then smiled at her then she was like "aaaaaaw your so by the book" bare in mind we arent dating but we are just kinda hanging out alot recently.

Hopefully the answers wont vary cause if they do im prolly gonna get even more confused then i am right now...
oh yea im 17 and the girls i talk to are like 16-19 just to give you a range to base your answers on. The more answers the better.

[hopeless1]

Girls liked being called by guys!! dont be so shy girls dont like that

[Karbonopsinos]

Well aside from the issue, I've gotta say that fearing nothing is a very unwise thing. Maybe it seems tough and manly to you to talk like that, and I'm sure it seems that way to a lot of people, but there are some basic fears all humans share, whether they admit it or not.

Personally, I fear losing my loved ones. I have awoke many times wondering what it would be like if my mother, or father, or sister were killed. I don't fear my own death because I know what will happen after. I fear God.

Remember, courage doesn't mean a lack of fear. Courage simply means overcoming that fear. Every wise person who has done something incredibly brave was terrified as he was doing it, yet overcame the fear to do right. The one who fears nothing is a fool.

[Cleo]

About calling -- it depends on situation.
If i like the guy, i'd want him to call me, maybe not every day. It's like courting a girl.
And if i am not interested, then it'd be pain you know where.

Don't worry about interrupting -- if girl is busy, she'll tell you and don't take it personally, you too are busy sometimes with your own things.
Make a note if she is ALWAYS busy -- might want to move on.
I had fear calling boys when i was 15-16, too. Just like someone is pulling my stomach, hehe. Well. You get used to calling people, it's OK

[meg]

I have a 12 year old daughter. The phone rings from the 9am to 9pm. I don't have a problem with this as long as she limits the amount of time she talks. I've only had one problem and that is when a boy would call her 10 times a day, or would call me and ask for the number where she could be reached. He doesn't call anymore.

Ask your girlfriend what her parents prefer, she may have her own phone and they don't care how often or how long you talk.
I suggest not calling before 9 am and not after 9pm. Always be polite, don't go off on the person answering the phone. Call once a day to show an interest, see if she calls you as well, if she doesn't dont call for a day or two and see if she does. Always use your manners. Meg


ohhhh another thing I don't like as a parent -- answering the phone to some little punk saying -- yo momma, is your girl around...or loud music in the back ground.

[meg]

I wasn't going to do this, but changed my mind.

We cannot control life. We can't control the actions of other people. There is no reason to fear death of yourself or a loved one, there is nothing you can do to prevent it, if it's your time to go or their time to go, it's going to happen.

Now, I'm not suggesting you play with electricity or a gun and try out my theory -- laughs...

Always becareful and be safe, just don't allow your mind to be consumed with worry. Life is too short ...Meg

[Karbonopsinos]

Meg, you haven't the faintest idea what you're talking about.

[meg]

I have tolerated your remarks, I have tolerated your young mind.
When you have lived another 17 years talk to me!

[Karbonopsinos]

....making cheap points, are we?

Your condescension is but a mark of your own insecurity in this respect -- laughs.

Life is not too short...it's just right, by your own account, since we can't control it, and in this I agree.

Otherwise, the advice you give is peppered with psychobilge and the pompous theories you peddle leave much to be desired... ;)

[hopeless1]

Hey yall two break it up :rolleyes: *laughs*

Meg-He's only 17 give him a break

Karbonopsinos-She has you out number by years And she has some kids I have to hand it too her I couldnt do it and I'm 21.. so plz show some maners. she know whats she is talking about.

Didnt mean to sound mean by this in anyway if I did oops sorry!

[mofezer]

Life is what You make it. I agree with meg, that when it's your turn to go, you go. I've been lucky enough to live this long. and I hpe I get to live alot longer, but, If I don't, I just hope I've made a difference. Know what I mean???? ya'all havea good one!! later!

[Rchyred]

ok i think weve made it hard for guys to approach us??? i dont care what kinda guy asked me out or rang id be flattered!!!! any girl that turns a guy down in a really bad way is a b****in my opinion(sorry if that sounds horrible), unless its someone who just doesnt get the picture. but i really respect and would personally think alot more of a guy that would have the confidence to make that call or first move!!! also i think the more you push urself to do it the easier u'll find doing it. :)