Amature at this "game"

[soldier10001]

Ok, I REALLY like this man who is married, and a christian :wall: ...this really sucks too! Ok, so I know I wouldn't be saying anything if this was just a "phase" but it isn't, I honestly think I'm in love with him.
I see him everyday at out work place for about an hour, I want to talk to him with a full on conversation, but I always choke up and joke about lame things. What can I do to suduce him or get him to know "gradually" that i have strong feelings for him ? People, I KNOW you guys can help me with this, so PLEASE ! I can't even sleep at night without thinking about him. HELP ME ! :bawling:


P.S. I don't want to mess up things between his marraige, but ...I just need to know if he feels the same for me. Is there anything i can do to get him to talk to me ? I need him to choose.. :lman:

[Karbonopsinos]

What do people not get about marraige?

What does that ring mean at all?

That marriage is a public acknowledging of a sexual relationship between a man and a woman, hopefully because of love, but not always, and this relationship is treated in a certain way by the law.

On the moral ground, just as in the legal, it is a COMMITMENT!

There is a difference between marriage and bf/gf.

So please, get away from this guy. If he's a real Christian, he will reject you anyway. And he doesn't have to choose on anything. He already chose by marrying the woman he loves. You're out of the picture.

[Byron]

karbo is a good man who give ethical advice. You won't go wrong with his advice. I hope you know the sanctity of a marriage.

We are here to help. We are not here to break marriages.

[hopeless1]

i agree with Karbo dont break up there marrage they love each other i dont really he'll have feeling for u then

[shyguy13]

I have to agree with the previous posts. It is best that you not pursue a relationship with this guy (as painful as it might seem), nothing good can come from it. I believe that the reason the divorce rate for this country is over 50% is that people do not take marriages seriously.
Besides, if he were to leave his wife for you, what would make you think that he wouldn't leave you for another woman?

[meg]

Remember what comes around goes around...

You cannot be in love with a man, you don't know. Could it be possible that what attracts you to him, is that he is a good christian man. I think you should throw yourself at him, and take the humiliation that will come with it -- smiles

[soldier10001]

:idea: LOL,You guys are right. Thanks for being nice about it, and thank you for setting me straight!

[shuxclams]

Please for the sake of not only your sanity but for all that are involved stay away, let him know that you care deeply for him and that if it were another time and place, but that you need to respect the marriage and the commitment that each made to each other.












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[MajorMax]

I'm willing to bet that you thought yourself into thinking you love him (yeah I know that sounds weird :)) because he's married. It's like with the forbidden fruit - it's much more valueble if you can't have it.

This is in fact a seducing method that I use. Guys, when a girl asks you if you have a girlfriend, and if she can't verify it, then tell her you do! You won't believe how well this works. The beauty of this is that, if they are interested, 99% of them will start asking questions about your relationship with your GF. This is a great way to tell whether or not a particular girl is interested in you.