Very confused...:(

[EastCoastSurfer]

There's this one girl that I like very much but I can't tell if she likes me back. The other day she called me and asked if she could come over cause she was upset. So I said sure. My other friend happened to come over just before her. So we all sat on the couch and talked for awhile. Then my friend got a call on his cell phone so he had to leave. We were doing fine till he left. So we sat there talkin for a bit but then we got into the awkward silence part. We just sat there all quiet. The thing is, is that when she is around people in a group or someone else she talks her heart away. But when we are ever together alone she is very quiet. We are both very shy. I always have something to say but it doesnt go very far. Do you think she is quiet and shy around me cause she might like me? We get along very well and all. Whenever we are online she always talks to me for a long time about what she did and how she is feeling and stuff. Alot of my other friends talk to her but she barely writes anything back to them. They are always askin why does she always talk to you so much. I really dont have an answer. I use to see her in school only but now we hang out more cause she has my number. I dont know what to do!!! What should I do??? And another thing is that my friend sent her a question email thing askin questions like do u like me? do i have a chance with you? He wanted her to fill it out about him but she ended up filling it out about me then sendin it back to him. She emailed me and said I answered the questions about you not him, my mistake. So that makes me wonder.....

[EastCoastSurfer]

I recently talked to my friend and hes been asking if I am something of her potential. She didn't really say a yes or no but she wants to get to know me a little more. But I get really nervous when I am around her. I kinda freeze up and don't know what to do. What do girls like doing besides going to a movie and stuff? Is there something I can do to just kinda talk to her about things in a romantic place. The beach is 15 mins away from here so do you think I should take a walk with on the beach one evening or is that too much for a first date thingy??? Anyfeed back is welcome!! I need to hear from people that have gone through the same problem I am in...

[IncuFabulous]

Dude.......... I hear what you are saying.

I am currently going through the same thing right now.

March 15th, I had a girl tell me that because of a family members death she tried dating after it but it didnt work out. She said she needed time to work through some things. Which is fine. But she said that she enjoys my company and thinks I'm cool to be around. I liked that comment because she is not saying no, but she is saying in some sense to wait.

I have..........waited. And in the mean time, she has said again that she enjoys my company and thinks I'm cool to be around. After hanging out once without really talking to her, she called me and apologized for not saying much. I thought this was awesome, since I thought it was my fault that nothing was said. I still feel that it is.

So I too, like yourself, feel the same awkwardness when I am around this girl. We are kinda quiet when its only us....and more vibrant and alive when others are around. I too am trying to figure out if that is because we really like each other, but are trying to get past the butterflys when we are together.

I think dood, that pretty soon, I am going to have to come out and reciprocate to her that I enjoy her company as well, ( I already have, but do it again ) and tell her again for emphasis that I think quite highly of her. You might want to do the same. It is extremely hard to find out if someone likes you....sometimes us guys need to have the BALLS to just come out and say something and not fear the possible rejection or non-reciprocation at first.

I am learning right now that it doesn't pay to be quiet when you are together with someone.....say something, what, I do not know. Comment on something about another person and then ask her a question. Get her talking about herself. I hope I haven't learned to late..........

CHill, but sieze the moment, take the opportunity and squeeze it for what its worth!

-IncuFabulous :D

[EastCoastSurfer]

Hey thanks IncuFabulous...... I talked to her today for the first time in a couple days, a couple days seems like alot cause we usually talk everyday...but anyways shes been a little sick so I have been checkin up on her asking her parents if she's ok and stuff cause she couldnt talk at the time. She called me and thanked me for calling and checking up. She said its nice to know that someone cares about me... SO that made me so much happier!! I think she is beginning to open up to me but in a sly way... She doesnt want to come on to me just yet but I know we could definently have something goin on...I'm goin to work on not being so quiet, The key is to have a good social relationship and see what that leads to. Well I'm outa here for now...I'll keep you updated on the situation....

-EastCoastSurfer

[IncuFabulous]

Awesome!

Your right about having a good social relationship first. Being good friends first and seeing if something is there later is the way to go.

By all means, keep me up to date on the situation!

-IncuFabulous :D