flirting with altarboy

[sweetyme]

Hi i'm new here, i have been lurking around for awhile, and read some of the stories...I have been going to this church for 2 years now. The church custodian who als serves the mass as an altarboy has been looking at me for 2 years now..during the mass we just keep looking at eachother, but after mass we have never spoken a word..I'm not sure he's really interested, perhaps he just likes to look at me during mass, but doesn't want anything else..last week I left my telephone number on the bench, where I usually sit, the next thursday when I was sitting in church (just before the mass started) I noticed my cellphone vibrating...Later when I got home I called back the number and it was him, I asked him if he had called he said no.....can anyone help, cause after 2 years the situation is getting kinda frustrating, I know I'm shy, but he doesn't seem that shy around other people, just around me....
any help appreciated...

[Ecco]

He might be just a shy person. And since this has gone for 2 years without any words exchanged, maybe you should just approach him. When you recieved the call on your cell, was he at church also? And when you called the number back, you made sure it was him, that was a good step but I would not advise leaving phone numbers on any bench..never know who would contact you.
Try asking him out for coffee or something casual as that; again shy people will never take the first step.
Just remember, a shy person takes alot of work to bring them out of their shy environment. If you want to pursue this, just keep that in mind. If nothing materializes, then the most you made is a friend.
Hope this helps. Good luck
;)

[sweetyme]

thnx for the response,
Yes he was in church like normal ,praying, then all of a sudden he looked at me anf stood up and went in to the sacristy(the back room) a few minutes later I noticed my phone ringing...Why would he call when I'm sitting there?

[Ecco]

Yw. Again coming from a guy's pov; point of view, I really do not know. Where you sitting in the same location where you dropped your phone number the first time? If so..then he was making sure it was you..more than likely he had a friend give you the look over to see if you jumped a bit as your cell rang.

Imho, I am still sticking to what my reply was, but with reservations, since you are telling me the facts..I think that this guy is childish. And again, I point to my previous reply..if he is really shy then I would not put it passed him to play that way. Regardless of age.

It is hard to get into anyone's head knowing what their true intentions are. Since I am an older guy..I can only say if you really want to pursue this...just go up to him, point blank and speak your peace. See where it takes you..and if the conversation goes well then you both will have something to laugh about for later conversations. If though, it doesn't turn out to your liking..if he gets offensive, he becomes confrontational, just forget about him and don't give him the time of day. Life is tooooo short!

I hope that I was of help. Best of luck.

[anothersteve]

His behaviour does appear a little odd. On confronting him about the phone call it's strange that he didn't admit to it. Perhaps he is just very shy and doesn't really know how to act around girls. As an easier alternative to going up and talking to him why not strike up an SMS conversation and see where that goes?

Steve