Please help! Does she really like me?

[Gan]

Hey guys and gals - I was wondering if you could help me - I have a serious problem.

I'm a 19 year old guy who attends local university. I have never had a girlfriend at all before but I find it easy enough to talk to the opposite sex.

Just recently I began talking to this 18 year old girl at my mum's work after I get back from school (I wait in my mum's office to go home every day). Although she's been there well over half a year and regularly has friendly conversations with my mum, I myself had never spoken to her before. Anyway, as far as I can tell from our conversations, we seem to like similar things, we have similar opinions on many different topics and we get along really well. She also genuinely laughs at my jokes.

Strangely, she has a slightly dark personality - ie. she often gets depressive spurts and says she's a looser and that she has no friends, but I always re-assure her that her life is not as bad as she thinks and that she has a lot of things going for her - and I think she likes that. I gather a lot of her depression comes from her recent (a couple of months ago) splitting up with one of her first boyfriend due to him dumping her for a school girl as well as her parents being overly protective (she's not allowed to wear singlet tops etc). However on occasion I sometimes feel she doesn't pay real attention to me, like when she went home sick the other day she made eye contact with mum and said "see you later" but never acknowledged that I was there.

Anyway just recently she has started to ask my mum questions about me - just little things regarding my standing towards relationships, what I like in girls and so forth. She has also gotten me to start helping her with little things around the office like the mail, and every time I enter the office now her friends are giggling behind my back. Oh, and just the other day I was told by one of her friends that she liked me!

Now I'm sure it's too early to tell yet - we've only spoken for a couple of weeks here and there, but I'm just wondering if she really does like me or not and if I should ask her out in the future after we've spoken a little more? I'm really worried because a mistake was made a couple of days ago when mum asked her if it was alright that I could give her a call sometime and she said she'd "think about it" with a smile on her face - which of course is that nice way of saying no. I really really like this girl and I don't want to loose her. Is she just playing around with me or does she actually like me? Please help!

-Gan

[AlexAnt]

I don't see why she would intentially play around with you. From the information you've presented, it sounds like she likes you. Then again, I have been wrong before. I don't see how asking her out casually could hurt anything, unless she is the type who delights in stomping her boot on men's faces.

Keep us updated. These threads are like little soap operas, and when we never hear the outcome of these little stories it's like torture! (Okay, it's not quite that bad, but it's always nice to know how things turn out. :)) Good luck mate,

Alex

[Gan]

Thanks heaps AlexAnt... I'll ask her and keep you updated.

From what I've heard she is a bit of a casual flirt but people have told me that she has only gone to this extreme with two other guys - of which she asked out but they declined. I think the main problem here is that my mum works in the same office and if something goes wrong it will be awkward for her.

-Gan

[insecurity]

I say...go for it :)

[opaque]

Ask her out. If you don't and someone else does you might be left wandering what might have happened. Worst she can say is no thank you. In that case it would be her loss you sound nice.