Turn ons....

[Karbonopsinos]

This is wierd, and it may give some people the impression that I'm messed up or even asexual!

Thing is, I've never deliberately watched pornos. However, when I do catch a glimpse of a naked female (as in Mulholland Drive, I should not have seen that movie), I feel absolutely no turn-on.

I know I'm not gay, because I am obviously very attracted to girls and always have been, but somehow I feel that I could never be turned on if I saw a girl naked, unless I'm in love with her.

Seriously, you could put me in a room full of naked women and I would feel absolutely nothing....actually I'd try to escape.

I do feel though, that if I fell in love with a girl (I haven't yet), that I would be very turned on if she were naked ;)

I'm just wondering if other people have felt that they are not turned on by flesh images where there are no emotions. I know that this will strike most guys (and girls) as wacko since so many people think with their penises and pussies and not with their heads and hearts, but I'm just throwing this issue out to see if there are others out there who think alike.

[girl]

I'm sort of that way. I think some degree of clothing is a much bigger turn on than none at all. I think I'd run away if I saw my crush naked, but seeing him in swim trunks is a huge turn on. Maybe you have to leave something to the imagination ;)

[Swift]

I don't think it neccessarily means you're totally messed up (although I can't rule it out ;) ). Possibly it comes down to your definition of being 'turned on'. Personally I enjoy spending a Friday evening at a strip joint looking at naked ladies. The appreciation of the fine female form (nothing like a bit of alliteration) is definately a most enjoyable past-time for me, so certainly one could say that I gain pleasure from looking at naked women. However, this doesn't necessarily mean that it gets me 'horny' or really turns me on. As 'girl' has said, a certain amount of clothing can be exteremely sexy (or a great 'turn on'), as it does indeed leave something to the imagination.

Having said this, you are definately a little (no, make that a lot) nuts if you'd run away from a room full of naked women!

-Swift

[sugarbabe]

It sounds like your idea of getting turned on has more to do with emotions than physical characteristics. You said that it would turn you on to see a naked girl that you love. I think that's really cool actually. You probably equate sex more with love than just "getting some." Good for you.

[Daisy814]

Well put sugarbabe! That was just what I was thinking. For me, I may be attracted to other guys if I see them like that, but I wouldn't be turned on at all. (I probably would run away if I was in a room full of naked guys...I would be seriously freaked out!) But when it comes to my boyfriend, I'm turned on by him in several ways (physically, emotionally, spiritually, personality, and the list goes on...) It is kinda hard to explain, unless you experience the same thing. Karbonopsinos said that he has never fallen in love with a girl ~ I am in love with my boyfriend and since then, he is the only guy that turns me on. :D

[opaque]

Karbonopsinos, If I were in a room of nakkid guys I would run. Gezz if I am in a chat room with all men I leave. lol Nude men don't turn me on either i like clothes on them. :) So I think your great the way you are don't give it a second thought.

[Charmer]

Karbonopsinos, this isn't strange at all. Infact, I think there are more people than we realize who are more turned on by a close personal connection than by sheer images. Society as a whole just surpresses, or rather ignores, these kinds of connections. Personally I think it's because everyone knows that "Sex Sells." They use sexually infused ads to sell any and everything from toothpaste to power tools . . . and it works. It would be too much of a challege to sell the idea that a relationship is key to a person's overall well-being.

I am more like you. I never really understood how my friends could be so greatly effected by just the visiual aspects of a person. I didn't ever have those sexually charged feelings until I did fall in love. And when it did happen, it was strange, exciting, and beautiful all at the same time. It was and contines to be a special experience. In this experience I have found yet another reason that I can be happy that I am not always "like everyone else."

You will find it too one day. And then you might even quote our friend Soloman again and say: "Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the madiens. . . . You have stolen my heart , my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes. . ." (2:2, 4:9)

[PerletPhp]

ditto, i too am like that

i prefer clothes on my woman; lol

i dunno, in some ways it is just sexier :D

[Gan]

I'm similar to this too - I'm much more turned on by someone's personality and personal aura than by their body. Of course, the body comes in a close second if you love the person.

-Gan

[Rabbit]

I don't know if this will help any, but I feel very similar. I could probably see what most would consider the "hottest" woman alive and feel nothing/have no reaction at all. But in the instances where I have gotten "attached" to a girl (not even necessarily the big "L" word) - those funny feelings start... um... arising.:eek: In situations like those, all it would sometimes take to get me going was simply holding her hand or just telling her how I felt. I don't like that that's how I seem to work, but there's nothing I can really do about it. It would be far simpler to be able to just go by an "I like what I see" philosophy. Anyway, hope this helps a little.

[garage sale]

Ha! You all think you're weird... well let me tell you this... I don't really like the way a guy's "package" looks. I think it's kind of ugly... I've never had a love/sexual relationship, so I don't know if that would change... I mean, I have some thoughts just like everyone else, but I'm not turned on by naked men. Usually I close my eyes >_<.... "Ewie porn! *closes eyes*" lol.

I actually find other parts of men attractive. I like hands. I like backs. I like smiles. And I generally learn to love/already love these features on a guy that I am caring more for than any other.

Do any of you feel that people become more beautiful to you as you get to know them? Like, I've always "seen" people, but they seem to look different after I know them. I mean, they're the same, but it's just that I KNOW them now and they just seem more beautiful to me.

I don't know if that makes sense. heh.

[BriarRose]

I wouldn't say I think that a man's penis is ugly so much, but it is definately not what I see as beautiful. I would rather drool over an almost naked man than watch his male parts flopping around :eek: Hmmmm..... a nice chiselled chest, cut arms and rough hands.... and of course that tight perky ass!!!

Sorry guys, although I am attracted to people with great personalities (definately the top on my turnon list) when he is built like a god too..... whooo hooo:D :p

[sugarbabe]

I agree with Briar Rose and garage sale...I'm much more attracted to a guy's bare chest and arms then his "package," which I agree is not very good looking. It seems as though women are the one's wth the beautiful bodies...I mean we might not all be perfect looking but the way that the woman's body is formed is just incredible.

[Swift]

There's nothing like a bit of modesty, hey sugarbabe ;)

Seriously though, I have to agree that the female body is definately a thing of incredible beauty, as opposed to the male body, which is likely designed more to be functional than anything else. But then, if the female body was as plain as us guys, why would any guy go through the daily torture of constant nagging, whinging and complaining, just to be with a women? :D

-Swift

[garage sale]

haha.. I agree with sugarcube, but I didn't want to say it. I think the woman's body is beautiful, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I'm attracted to women (100% heterosexual baby), but I think it was just planned for women to be "beautiful" and men to be "handsome."

... did I mention that I really like male hands ? :eek2:

hehe

[donsstella]

Hi,

I don't feel that your feelings are out of sorts at all. To each his/her own. If more out there felt the same and less enticed by flesh then maybe there would be less sex crimes(my personal opinion).

[Karbonopsinos]

I agree, from an objective standpoint that the package is pretty hideous looking. But breasts are no better. Two hanging blobby things full of veins with pink knobs sticking out of them....eww.

[meg]

People are turned on by various things. At an early age, I looked at the human body as art. I still do. I love painting nudes. One the other hand, I'm turned on by erotic scenes. I find the male body absolutely delicious. Every delightful inch -- smiling wickedly
My paintings have gone from a simple nude to Erotic. I was told once to paint something I have a passion for. I would say 8 out of 10 paintings I have done in the past two years that have a penis in it ... Such a remarkable creation.
As far as sex goes, in general...I prefer to love someone. I don't thrive on the quanity of sex but rather the quality. When your heart, body and soul are completely involved, there is nothing more pleasurable. When you love and trust someone completely, you will experience pleasure beyond you're own imagination. Meg

[MajorMax]

You're probably a rather sexually uptight person. You said in another post that you find oral sex repulsing, right?

I would say that you don't necessarily have to BE IN LOVE with someone in order to become sexually attracted to them, I think that you just have to feel confortable around them and to have a feeling of connection to them.

Right? :) Just guessing here...

[BadKitty21]

I think I feel this way to some degree too. I mean, if I went to one of those joints (I never have) where there were male strippers, I would find ABSOLUTELY no turn on from the naked men. I'd probably laugh. Also, when I first dated my boyfriend I was afraid of seeing him completely naked. Not that I thought I would find him unattractive...he has a great body!....just, I guess I wasn't ready, and I wasn't until I started getting closer to him and fell in love. Still to this day, It is a MUCH bigger turn on to me when my boyfriend and I make out with our clothes ON before sex rather than just getting naked and "doing it". I don't particularly find a naked body as "sexy" as the person themself.

[msluva913]

My boyfriend says the same thing that he isnt turned on by other naked women other than me. I believe him cuz I trust him. He will go to strip clubs once in awhile with friends but say the girls do nothing for him. He went recently and said he felt proud cuz even IF his manhood (with the mind of it's own) may have wanted to get hard like any other guy... all he could think about was me. He said he didnt feel like a normal guy hehe. He said he wanted to leave the club too but only goes to do "something different" with his friends. But the second I show him some bare shoulder by pulling down my shirt he gets up ;)