Top 5 Qualities attracting you to him/her ? [Archive]

insecurity

03-31-2002, 08:38 PM

1.) Nice eyes that smile ;)
2.) a smile that melts me :D
3.) a sense of humor :flippy:
4.) a mind which can understand my sense of humor (it's not for everybody) :smash:
5.) the ability to recognise the simple things in life (e.g. who has gone out of their way recently to admire the sunset, like it may be the last one that they see?) :bawling:

Life is like a beautiful melody, only the lyrics are messed up

Byron

03-31-2002, 11:39 PM

1) She love to laugh.
2) Her smile.
3) Her cheerfulness. Everyday is a brand new happy day.
4) The comfortable feeling I get when I am with her. Makes me want to spend the rest of my life with her.
5) She appreciate the clouds, the sky, the moon, the stars..... the simple things in life.
6) She looks like a baby when she sleep.
7) Her baby smell.
8) Her eyes.
9) Her cheeks.
10) Her sweet voice.
11) She is not a spendthrift.
12) She like pets.
13) We guarrel and forget.
14) She is not rude.
15) She is fun to be with.

Diamonds

04-01-2002, 04:17 PM

-innerglow
-goal oriented
-confident
-intelligent
-sparkle in the eyes
-a big, bright meaningful smile
-romantic
-open minded
-sensitive
-talks and listens

Bittersweet

04-02-2002, 09:40 PM

1. An established ego
2. Good eye contact
3. Obvious that he cares about his appearance
4. Good stimulating conversation
5. Positive attitude

(He must also have teeth, hair and his pants can be worn around his waist and not directly below) :devil:

CelesteDeVive

04-04-2002, 07:08 PM

5 Things that attract me
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1. An air of mystery
2. Intellectual
3. He argues(debates) with me ( I thrive on adversity)
4. Great sense of humour
5. Has a fierce sense of independence

sasha2127

04-12-2002, 02:27 AM

1. strong hands
2. sense of humor
3. lives each day to the fullest
4. can enjoy a romantic dinner at Taco Hell
5. has goals in life
6. understands the importance of family

IceLemonTea

04-19-2002, 09:22 AM

1) I can feel his sincerity :)
2) not girl-ly
3) humorous
4) basically cute (teeth, hair, face, the way he does things...)
5) sporting
============================== 6) gentleman
7) his laughter :p
8) determination
9) not a bad person

Karbonopsinos

04-19-2002, 01:06 PM

Hmm, spontaneity of person and of being. That's nice.

Many people have said spontaneity of thought and I like that too.

But what I find especially attractive is the spontaneity of being. NOT a girl who cares what she looks likes or spends time on appearance, but rather, a girl that has so many other things in life that appearance is the last thing on her mind.

She can be dressed in rags and is beautiful, she can be running through a forest in bare feet and still be beautiful....

Germaine

04-20-2002, 04:42 AM

SOrry did u say top 5? :p

~An individual with strong believes
~Reserved towards strangers yet friendly once he
opens up
~Defender of the innocent,Protector of the weak! (LOL!)
~A natural charmer/comedian
~Does not whinge about material things
~An deep thinker and optimistic who gives time to dreams
(like me...)
~Not a touchy feely person (ew!)
~Gentle lover
~Finds Britney repulsive :devil:
~Appreciative of nature

I think he's non-existent :bawling:

Lady

07-17-2002, 08:16 PM

1. His honesty

2. Loving

3. Caring

4. sense of humor

5. personality

6. loyalness

7. generous

8. good heartedness

9. eyes

10. smile

PerletPhp

07-18-2002, 10:50 PM

Shy but outgoing
smart
kind
helpful
talented
enjoyable

yes that is 6... ahh what can i say, i'll go for almost any kind girl -- all i want is to be loved =D

too bad it hasn't happened yet :bawling: :bawling: :bawling:

don't worry, i'll get over it :D

voland

08-11-2002, 12:36 PM

Since I'm only about 1-and-half years old I tend to look at breast size (I'm a big eater, so the bigger the better). A womans hips/ass drive me nuts too, again, the bigger the better so when I sit on her lap I won't fall off. Long hair is a plus because I like to pull it and watch the funny faces she makes. A woman's hands have got to be nice so it doesn't hurt when she's rubbing me down with baby oil.

And even though I'm still a baby, I know in my little baby heart that the men who post here and claim that they look for anything other than physical beauty... are full of poopy! Looks draws a man in, the other attractive qualities come much later.

Ladies, if you like my photo, and you have big boobs, get in touch with me!

Rexie

08-18-2002, 04:33 PM

ok...these r only the innitial attractions...but they make me feel soo happy just to be near him....

1.how he manages to look you right in the eyes when he smiles (oh man i just melt....get a mop cuz im a puddle on the floor)
2.how he dances to his favorite song and isnt embarrassed
3.how his eyes light up when he sees you
4.how he always smells sooooooooo good even if hes dressed like a dirtball
5.how he laughs all the time...and really means it

sigh:D

girl

08-23-2002, 01:07 AM

Well, at least voland is being honest. For me, attraction happens on diffrent levels. As far as physical preferences go, i love deep soulful eyes (esp. black) a slender but toned build, and messy hair. But one of the most homely guys i know is also the most intellectually atttractive (observant, insightful, witty) and i'd take that over an abercrombie model any day. I also know another guy that i consider very emotionally attractive-he's friendly, open, sensitive (but not touchy-feely, i'm w/ ya on that Germaine) and has that cool but creepy ability to sense exactly what's bothering you and make you talk about it.
*sigh...if only i could have my cake and EAT it too :devil: jk
(that's another thing- i love guys that share my dark and slightly sick sense of humor.)

PerletPhp

08-23-2002, 06:25 PM

in response to volands comment on physical attraction..

i'll admit i want the girl to be attractive, as voland has said that is what draws you to the person, however as long as she is somewhat pretty, ya know decent, but i mainly go for personality and intellect, as of now i am debating on asking a girl out who has a great personality and is REALLY smart (and pretty i might add) but she is 5'9 (and that isn't counting her shoes i think =D). my gut tells me to go for it however i am a bit reluctant b/c i don't deal well with rejection...

for what 5'9 girl could ever love a 5'6 guy =(

anyway i blabbed alot (sorry) so thanks everyone!

tomkel1129211

08-24-2002, 02:15 PM

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Rexie
[B]ok...these r only the innitial attractions...but they make me feel soo happy just to be near him....

2.how he dances to his favorite song and isnt embarrassed

That is the man for me.

Rexie

08-26-2002, 01:26 AM

A yeyah...heheh
u know they r a keeper

and to PerletPhp...short people make the rockin world go round! (i should know :) ) dont ever think a girl couldnt love u for something so meaningless...have more faith in us... we're not all shallow:nod:
rexie

girl

08-26-2002, 02:22 AM

Yeah rexie! i'm a shorty too (5 feet even), glad to see other ppl who don't let their height stop 'em.

PerletPhp

08-26-2002, 05:32 PM

rexie - sorry, how could i be so heartless

girl - yes i should be more faithful to my height ;) EDIT: That sounded pathetic so I took it out! =D

Thanks ladies! Luv ya all!

- PerlETPhp

Alicia

09-05-2002, 09:20 AM

Short people are cool I guess :) ok well I have yet to find an advantage to being short but I'm sure there are some?

I just hate literally looking up to everyone I know....

Anyhoo attractiveness factors -

Taller than me (at least 5'10" tall - I'm 5'1")
Lovely green or blue eyes
Clean shaven
Shorter but not shaved or bald haircut
Not egotistical but also not so reserved he never says a word to anyone
Not afraid to show affection towards me in public
Strong and well defined hands
smooth chest
wears boxers!
Ambitious, has goals, and knows how to reach them
Knows how to seduce me
And last but not least - knows the importance of a well timed hug

Turnoffs are a little shorter...maybe...

Tattoos
Piercings
Long hair
Hairy backs!! oh god those are SO disgusting!!
boxer/brief underwear
gigantic feet
Ego...I strongly dislike guys who think they're all that and it's their job to flaunt it.

No job and don't see the point of having a steady job either.
Play guitar or drums and aspire to be a rock star. Sorry but this seems to be a stereotype that I find to be a real turnoff :)

I think that's it! :p Yep, I'm a picky one!

garage sale

09-10-2002, 10:44 PM

1. A beautiful person, inside & out
2. Willing to be selfless/committed
3. Has a sense of humor, but knows when to be romantic
4. Intellectually stimulating
5. Has strong faith in God or what have you

angel143ml

09-10-2002, 11:52 PM

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1. good sense of humor
2. willing to protect you
3. likes to go camping, boating, etc.
4. family oriented
5. hard working, dependable
6. passionate about life
7. very affectionate
8. lots of stamina
9. hard working
10. wants kids:angel6:
[QUOTE]Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.

Karbonopsinos

09-11-2002, 05:14 PM

Angel:

That's a very nice list, I must admit. All too often, girls drool over looks or big muscles.

You, it seems, yearn for a more traditional definition of masculinity, one that has lost its charm nowadays.

At one time, men defined themselves through their protective and providing role in a relationship and through fatherhood.

Today, it seems it all comes down to trivialities of one sort or another.

angel143ml

09-11-2002, 05:28 PM

Karbonopsinos:

I guess I'm one of those that still think the guy is the one in charge when it comes to the family, protecting them and what not. Looks eventually fade, and if thats all you had to begin with, after there gone, whats left? :angel6:

garage sale

09-11-2002, 09:33 PM

Ah, me too. I believe that through marriage, the man & woman connect as one. They both have different roles & together they form a functional team.

elgilicious

12-17-2002, 01:48 AM

As far as the physical aspect, I like curvy, lightly-tanned, short girls with thick (yet toned) thighs and a firm round bottom that's just a little bit too big for her frame. I also love Hispanic girls who dye their hair wheat blond (Puerto Rican chicks...mmmm)

As far as the personality aspect, I like girls who can make me laugh and put back into the conversation. I know I'm funny, so the last thing I need is for a girl to laugh at my jokes all the time. I also like girls who like to touch--rub my shoulders, nibble on my ear, etc.

LoVeStRuCkDuCk

12-26-2002, 10:06 PM

1. she makes me laugh whenever I'm with her :lol:
2. she doesn't mind singing to me, or when I sing to her :o
3. she loves cuddling as much as I do :D
4. she has a way of helping my problems go away, no matter how big they may be :bouncy:
5. she just...is herself...twenty-four/seven :p

so I love her...and that's all there is to it. well there's much more, but the thread says five, so I narrowed it down to five lol.

peace

dewshine

01-02-2003, 01:46 PM

Eyes that sparkle
A soft, gentle touch
Physical affection
Easy going attitude
He wants to please me
He cooks for me!
He makes me feel safe and that things will be ok when I'm worried.

mysterious

08-18-2004, 07:42 PM

Her smile
Her eyes
Her laugh
When I'm with her I am the happiest person in the world
The smell of her hair
everything

ska32198

08-29-2004, 11:28 PM

1. Smile
2. Eyes
3. Looks
4. Converstional
5. Open

rani

09-19-2004, 08:58 PM

Top 5 Physical and non physical

Physical
1. Boobs
2. Ass
3. Slim body
4. Nice Hair
5. Sexy long legs

Non physical
1. GREAT personality
2. NOT blonde (as in stupid, clutz etc)
3. Smart
4. Knows how to act wen to act (formal, informal, sexy etc.)
5. Not racist!!! (thats just fricken annoying wen u think u hav sum1 perfect and they just go and say all this mean about other ppl....)

MidnightBreeze

11-13-2004, 11:47 AM

k..... ima guy, what i see in a girl is....
1~ Her eyes. First thing I ever notice of anyone
2~Her smile. Happiness is contagious
On to the real part
3~Her personality. This should be number one
4~Her lovingness. I'm a helpless romantic.. I don't appear as one though. I know better :cool2:
5~Her charm. I love it when a girl knows just what to say... especially if I'm feeling down. Wait!!! I should add, if she knows what to do too. Actions are more powerful than words (doesn't apply to me though, this girl I'm with loves being seduced by my poems).

My favorite thing to do is just cuddle up with her while a movie is playing. Neither one of us is really paying attention to it. Just eyes closed. Feeling the warmth and loving vibes from each other. A whisper or two. A slight kiss on her cheek. So quiet, so serene. At that moment her and I are away from the world and all the trouble of it. Together for eachother.
I can't wait to see her Monday. Hey!! if any guys ever need some help with writing poetry or some form of written expression just IM me.

edwardpaul214

11-16-2004, 10:16 AM

In no particular order.....

I want a girl who is

attractive, smart, playful/silly, loving, kind......

someone who can be a vulnerable girl and strong woman all rolled into one

crjames

12-13-2004, 11:35 PM

1. Her clitoris
2. Her left labia lip
3. Her right labia lip
4. The rest of her vagina
5. And her smile.

It's not all about the vagina, you know...

l4linda

12-14-2004, 11:51 PM

Hey Perlet, go for it! If she has a strong sense of self, height discrepancy won't matter.

My daughter's high-school sweetheart was a couple of inches shorter than her. After 5 years she broke up with him, that was actually one of the reasons! They stayed friends, and now that she's more mature, older and wiser (she's in her late 20's now,) and after dating other guys, she realized no one could compare to her first love. He also grew up, and their life goals are more similar now than they were back then. Height was certainly not the only issue, and she now realizes how unimportant their height difference is. At the time though, she wasn't entirely comfortable in her own skin, which covers a taller-than-average female frame. Her discomfort with his height spoke more of her issues with herself than with him. They are back together now, and I know for sure this was meant to be, as do both of them. I'm sure they will eventually get married. They are one of those couples everyone envies - it's so obvious how much love there is between them.

Now back to the original topic:

1. strong sense of self, confidence and self-worth,
2. strong principles/values,
3. expressive, kind eyes.
4. ability to express himself in an uninhibited manner, verbally and non-verbally,
5. compassion and sensitivity,
5. intelligence,
5. sense of humor, especially willingness and ability to laugh at himself,
5. not critical/judgemental of others,
5. understands the value and importance of family,
5. not overly possessive or jealous,
5. passionate, not just sexually (don't get me wrong - passionate sexuality too, but passionate about life, his family, his interests, and his committment to me.)
5. capacity for love, affection, and intimacy.
6. likes to cook!

nathan

12-16-2004, 10:04 AM

But it is hard to list an initial five things. I think you generally focus on one or two really outstanding features, well I do anyway.

The thing that really grabs me is definitely her smile and laugh. If a girl has that, and I am physically attracted to her, then I suppose I pretty much go from there.

I would also like to point out, that I know everyone says the real beauty is on the inside, and I know the qualities that matter are in fact on the inside, but it is cynical to think that a relationship can survive if no physical attraction exists.

And there is my two cents.

Rotcchik

01-29-2005, 10:20 AM

1. strong hands
2. sense of humor
3. lives each day to the fullest
4. can enjoy a romantic dinner at Taco Hell
5. has goals in life
6. understands the importance of family

Taco Hell? *goes to taco hell* hello, I'd like to order a regualr soft taco with lettuce, picani sauce-

Co worker: Sorry there is no Picani sauce.

Me: NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! *cries and rocks back and fourth, sucking her thumb in fetal position* WHAT KIND OF PLACE IS THIS!!!!!!???????

^__^ :flippy:

Sword Demon

01-29-2005, 10:53 AM

1.knows how to use a sword to challange me ( opitional)
2.Happy going
3.Person who thinks outside the box
4.One who dosent just judge automaticly what the person is on the outside
5.Meditiation
6.if all else fails switch to step one

mrrocko

01-30-2005, 11:14 PM

Physical:

1.Face (Overall attractiveness of her face)

2.Petite (Not fat, big chest or big ass)

3.Eyes

4.Smile

5.Hair (I tend to like shoulder-mid-shoulder length brown hair but I am honestly not THAT picky. Shorter or different colors don't bother me)

Non-Physical:

1passion towards others

2.Personality (Not overly bubbly or psycho-like but not depressed either. Just cheerful and tends to think positively and treat everyone with respect. Laid-back I guess describes it well.)

3.Emotional (I am different than most here in I like a girl that is emotional. I enjoy being there to comfort and "protect" her when things go wrong. Not necessarily an attention whore or a drama queen. Just a girl who doesn't try to act like Ms. Invincible when something goes wrong in her life. So to shorten it up, I like a girl who really wears her heart on her sleeve.)

4.Intelligence, I want to be able to talk on a normal adult level with her.

5.NOT a party girl. I tend to prefer a girl who would rather go out only with myself over someone who is constantly hitting frat parties or clubs. More of a romantic type I guess. I'm really into that sort of thing.

Bonus:

I don't know which category this would fall in but one thing that I really look for in a girl is someone who can get intimate without having sex. I like to just sit on the couch with a girl and "cuddle". One of my favorite dates is just going back to either my/her place, renting a movie or two and just chilling on the sofa with each other.