The spark is gone...how can i get it back?

[Bru78]

Hi,

My GF and i have been going out for about 3 months now, and must say that i have had a great time...and we've been spending almost every weekend together.
But in the last week or so we seem to lack conversation, not only that i feel that she doesnt like sharing her problems with me and sometimes afraid of talking to me. And i always feel like im in the dark.

And im always being this nice guy trying to be supportive and understanding and sometimes i get the S....ts and think i i'll be better off being the "bad Guy" that every woman talks about.


So what can i do to get our spark back....or will it ever came back.......................... .....

cheers

[Karbonopsinos]

Do the bad boy role.

The "women like nice guys" thing is the biggest lie ever.

[IceLemonTea]

I don't think "the women like nice guys" is totally true though because different women have different perspectives on their choice of men and it also depends on some bits of "chemistry" too. I don't prefer bad guys. Instead, I try to avoid them. ;)

[whiskeyhard]

Hay. Nice men can be bad at times. Bad men can be nice at times. I don't feel there is a nice or bad man. You need to just be yourself.Don't change for anyone except yourself.I have been with my husband 15yrs. We go through good and bad times.She went out with you for who you are not so you can be someone else. You can't have the "spark" all the time.You need to go through some rough time so you can enjoy the good times.

[CnMe]

If, after three months of dating you are already running out of things to say (i.e. lack of conversation, inability to share things) then perhaps you should ask yourself if there will be enough substance to last a lifetime? I believe that dating is simply a dress-rehearsal for marriage... It is the process by which we select a life partner.

My first husband and I ran out of things to talk about before the ink was dry on the marriage license. We remained married (on paper) for 7 miserable years, and did a tremendous amount of damage to each other.

On the other hand, I have been married to a wonderful man now since 1999, and we still don't run out of things to talk about! We sometimes have disagreements, but our love seems to get stronger by the day, which is a concept that I used to think was a fairy tale.

[E76]

If everybody is this shallow, we are all screwed. And not in a good way.