rjapz
06-10-2001, 07:55 PM
Hi to all of you advisers, what I'm about to tell ya is a little personal and quit embarrassing to me, maybe not to you guys, but to me it is. But I figure I can get more responds and opinions to help me what to do. So I prefer to post it and tell you guys my problem then go tell anybody else closer to me, cause they'll make front of me. I'm 25 year old male, and I'm not a virgin, I dated quit a few dozen times and had a few serious girlfriends. But by now your saying, Why did this guy posted a message for, makes no sense. Well here's my story. Please give me a good honest advice.
I told my problem to somebody and he told me that I'm stuck up and full of my self, that don't think your all that and etc. And that actually got me thinking, cause it's true and I haven't notice to I thought about about my pass. and yeah, he's right, and now I finding out this new issue I have and never thought I had it. I know that for a fact. So what should I do? You know, let me let you in a secret, I use to date like 4 times a month. I don't play games with girls, I respect them enough to not to. And the reason I always had girlfriends, is cause, 1..I always been introduced by my friends. And that made it so easy for me cause it was an ice breaker and puts my foot right in the door. And 2, they picked me up, I don't picked them up.I had it " again " so easy cause they was already interested in me, and I didn't had to put any effort. And 3. my friends always hooked me up. So all that made is so so easy. Thats the truth. And that's why my subject is, " I never picked up a girl and don't know how" .
I'm too spoiled, I always just stand there and let the chicks approach. They just come out of no where, without me putting much effort behind it. I didn't have too talk much,do or have to impress them. I new what they was already interested so I took it easy. plus I'm not good in socializing at bars and etc. Now today, I don't know what to do, Im too shy, not talkative. But I can't seem to have a good funny long conversations. I go to bars and see all the guys and gals talk talk and laugh laugh, wishing I was just like those guys who scours on chicks buy having these intellectual discussions and great jokes. Me, just sitting there sipping on my sex on the beach. Waiting to be approached, it just doesn't happen that way today, I think this whole dating issue is giving me a challenge.
I Just learned that. It so hard for someone who's been spoiled for a long time now. How can I unspoiled my self and get confidents and self esteem to approach a girl, and just spontaneously strike a conversation. I don't know what to say. So nice lips, what should I do, Im not talkative " don't know what to say or talk about", I'm spoiled, I don't have confidence nor much self esteem, and now when a girl give eye contact, I get nervous and turn my head, that's cause I don't have support and the guts to do it by myself. What can I do, it's very hard. I do need help. Now I hope I'm not being to mature and full of my self again cause this is my true story, and I don't have any other way an explaining it.
But my real problem is, I lost my self esteem and confidence cause of being antisocial. How can I be spontanouesly social,funny and entertain and make girls laugh. I want to build my esteem/confidence back?
:(
I told my problem to somebody and he told me that I'm stuck up and full of my self, that don't think your all that and etc. And that actually got me thinking, cause it's true and I haven't notice to I thought about about my pass. and yeah, he's right, and now I finding out this new issue I have and never thought I had it. I know that for a fact. So what should I do? You know, let me let you in a secret, I use to date like 4 times a month. I don't play games with girls, I respect them enough to not to. And the reason I always had girlfriends, is cause, 1..I always been introduced by my friends. And that made it so easy for me cause it was an ice breaker and puts my foot right in the door. And 2, they picked me up, I don't picked them up.I had it " again " so easy cause they was already interested in me, and I didn't had to put any effort. And 3. my friends always hooked me up. So all that made is so so easy. Thats the truth. And that's why my subject is, " I never picked up a girl and don't know how" .
I'm too spoiled, I always just stand there and let the chicks approach. They just come out of no where, without me putting much effort behind it. I didn't have too talk much,do or have to impress them. I new what they was already interested so I took it easy. plus I'm not good in socializing at bars and etc. Now today, I don't know what to do, Im too shy, not talkative. But I can't seem to have a good funny long conversations. I go to bars and see all the guys and gals talk talk and laugh laugh, wishing I was just like those guys who scours on chicks buy having these intellectual discussions and great jokes. Me, just sitting there sipping on my sex on the beach. Waiting to be approached, it just doesn't happen that way today, I think this whole dating issue is giving me a challenge.
I Just learned that. It so hard for someone who's been spoiled for a long time now. How can I unspoiled my self and get confidents and self esteem to approach a girl, and just spontaneously strike a conversation. I don't know what to say. So nice lips, what should I do, Im not talkative " don't know what to say or talk about", I'm spoiled, I don't have confidence nor much self esteem, and now when a girl give eye contact, I get nervous and turn my head, that's cause I don't have support and the guts to do it by myself. What can I do, it's very hard. I do need help. Now I hope I'm not being to mature and full of my self again cause this is my true story, and I don't have any other way an explaining it.
But my real problem is, I lost my self esteem and confidence cause of being antisocial. How can I be spontanouesly social,funny and entertain and make girls laugh. I want to build my esteem/confidence back?
:(