Dumped *sniffle*

[RosaMystica7]

Hey all. Thanks again to everyone who helped give me advice to hook up with John a while back. He dumped me today. Sunday would've been 3 months. He said he "doesn't know where this relationship is going" and he wants to "just be friends." What does it mean when a guy says that? Does that mean I screwed up? Does that mean I'm just not what he's looking for?

:bawling: 3 months. :bawling:

[Kaisharga]

Chances are moderately good that he means what he says. Allow me to translate.

"I don't know where this relationship is going."
Translation: "It seems like we were going good for a while, but we seem to have gotten stuck somewhere, and it's all the same day after day now. We haven't really 'progressed' in the relationship for a long time, and I'm looking to move forwards."

"I think we should just be friends."
Translation: "It already feels like we're just close enough to be friends, but not close enough to be lovers. We might as well make that denotation official."

On the other hand, it could be that he's using those as a cover up for something else. In which case he would be the only one who could tell you the real reason. But it seems that when guys do this, they at least tend to obliquely refer to the 'problems' at hand (and 'problems' in this circumstance does not necessarily mean something was ACTIVELY wrong).

--Kaisharga

[RosaMystica7]

In the past month we hung out once for 45 minutes. I can understand that though, he was sick... I was sick.. etc. He was always tired, which I can understand cuz I go through times like that. The last time we hung out we just cuddled... didn't even kiss. He hasn't kissed me good-bye in school for a while, just a hug. Last time I wanted to hang out he was too tired. He was supposed to drive me home yesterday and I forgot. Argh I wish I knew what's going on in his head. There's one thing I'm wondering that maybe I screwed up... Should I ask him if that's the reason he's acted so strange? Or should I just drop the topic? I don't want to push things and then we're not friends anymore. But I do want to know what was so bad that he dumped me. :(

Ok I got an e-mail back from him:
hey angi
i am really sorrry but i am also glad uy still wanna be friends and im sorry i cant give you a reason ive never been good at expressing my self and i just dont know what i need but i cant be in this relationship if i dont know what i want i felt like i was being an ass because i dont know what i want im sorry if ive hurt you in any way that was not my intention.
FRIENDS :)
JOHN

He felt like he was "being an ass" the entire time? It makes me feel a little better being he didn't mention anything I did wrong, but I still can't stop crying. :(