Need advice from a Woman

[Texan]

I went up to this girl at work she's a waitress and told her that I wanted to get to know her, but her section is always full. ( we have made a lot of eye contact for a couple of weeks) She acted flattered and said next time she sees me at the bar she would bring me over. Well this weekend I went back and she did bring me over and she was very flirtatious and told me to keep coming in to see me. I came back Sat. night w/a friend and she was a hostess that night, but came over about 5 times flirting away. The next day I went back to watch the football games and stayed at the bar to be a "Challenge" and she came over twice and talked, but ignored me the rest of the day. I caught eye contact throughout the day, but at the end a "boyfreind" showed up and she did'nt say goodbye or look over, but she said goodbye to other guys there. Is she interested or playing games?? There is a 10 year age difference.

[donsstella]

Hello 2U,

I feel ...but can be wrong...that there is a game brewing. She is aware of the fact that you are "open and interested"now and she has the ball in her court and she is running with it. Just as it was less than pleasant for you to have her leave and not acknowledge you now the ball has been passed back to you. It is time to take that you take a walk down "brush off" lane yourself. Give a dose of her own med and she will definitely take some serious notice. Women have often been labled as "Felines"....well notice that felines play with their catch first?.

[hopeless1]

babe she is playing with you she wants you to come back for the money!! and the bussniess so you either tell her how you feel or fine a new person tell her you want to know if theres a chance here and you don't wanna play game but don't say it in a way to scaire her off

[Thenoisefrom551]

My friends this is why when I am lonely I always like to eat out... You leave with a full belly and a little spring in your step...

The reason -- Every GOOD waitress under the age of 40 gives service in a way that makes you think that you have a shot at scoring with her...

It is called "flirting for tips" or somethinglike that. (I think I read it here)

One day last month, I ate out three times. I had beautiful waitresses for breakfast and dinner and both acted like -- if their shift ended anytime soon that I could take them home with me. For lunch, I had a waiter and he acted exactly the same way ;)

Its harmless as long as you know it is not real. BTW, I never let it change my tip. And sometimes I even give them less of a tip if they are too over the top...

Given that...

Waittresses are people too... and they do have BF's and get married and such... So maybe, there is something else going on here... but I think the odds are very long. The truth is that when you go to a bar or rest. you really do not spend enough time with your waitress for her to discover what a great guy you are.

So, I'd suggest that you just take it as a game and enjoy it - flirt with her like crazy... but just don't expect it to go anywhere... and if it does happen to lead to soemthing else... GREAT!

I'm pulling for you!


TNF551


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[meg]

Laughing -- I have to agree with TNF551

You need to take in consideration the personality of a waitress. If she wasn't good at making you feel comfortable and wanting to return, she wouldn't be working tables. I haven't met a waitress or waiter that hasn't been a major flirtybutt! Don't spend all your money in one place. Meg

[Karbonopsinos]

I dunno. It's possible.

But when I was in Greece with an ozzie girl friend (note, not girlfriend), this waiter guy gave her the last flan. It was romantic in that mushy sort of way, but I always felt it wasn't for a tip (since we didn't pay them up front, it was via a tour), and since he would probably never see us again (being tourists), not for continued service either.

It just seemed that he thought she was a sweet girl and he wanted to let her (and us:)) know that he liked her.

I think that kind of flirting is nice. Spontaneous. Tasteful.

[MajorMax]

Whether the waitress likes you or not is IRRELEVANT once you decide that YOU like HER and are willing to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

Go up to her and tell her you'd like to talk to her over a cup of coffee to see if she's the kind of person you'd like to get to know better, because you have an intuition about her. Then ask for her phone number. If she gives it to you, she was either interested in you before or you just made her interested by telling her you have an intuition about her (that makes her curious - have something prepared to tell her over coffee). Women like mystery.

If she does NOT give it to you (the phone #, u perv :)) it means she's only interested in the tips like everyone else said.